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Advice for Strong Relationships from Jordan Peterson

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It's a revolution in sexual behavior.", 'start': 133.06, 'duration': 4.402}, {'end': 140.424, 'text': "And it's certainly not obvious that it's a one that's.", 'start': 137.482, 'duration': 2.942}, {'end': 145.847, 'text': 'Is it a social thing? Is it just technology? Is this what people want to be doing? Because you think.', 'start': 140.424, 'duration': 5.423}, {'end': 146.508, 'text': "It's easier.", 'start': 145.847, 'duration': 0.661}, {'end': 147.989, 'text': 'Yeah In some ways.', 'start': 146.808, 'duration': 1.181}, {'end': 148.189, 'text': 'But it.', 'start': 148.009, 'duration': 0.18}, {'end': 154.494, 'text': "The technology has enabled this fleeting sexual, definitely, definitely and and that's.", 'start': 149.029, 'duration': 5.465}, {'end': 158.077, 'text': "but we don't want to underestimate How radical a technology that is.", 'start': 154.494, 'duration': 3.583}, {'end': 161.28, 'text': 'that especially? 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'text': "It's hard for couples to figure out how to manage two careers.", 'start': 446.647, 'duration': 3.402}, {'end': 459.991, 'text': "It's hard for women to figure out how to get educated and get their career launched at the same time that they're finding a partner and having kids,", 'start': 451.468, 'duration': 8.523}, {'end': 461.772, 'text': 'because women have this tight timeframe.', 'start': 459.991, 'duration': 1.781}, {'end': 466.653, 'text': "You know, I mean, they've got to get a lot done by the time they're mid thirties for sure.", 'start': 461.812, 'duration': 4.841}, {'end': 473.035, 'text': "And so it's, it's not much time, you know, it's like 15 years really from the time you're an adult, that's you better get at it.", 'start': 467.013, 'duration': 6.022}, {'end': 474.076, 'text': "It's not very long.", 'start': 473.095, 'duration': 0.981}, {'end': 480.519, 'text': "Right So I think there are new challenges that have arisen that weren't there for previous 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and compromise a lot of times on.', 'start': 498.629, 'duration': 3.262}, {'end': 505.593, 'text': 'Like, if you live by yourself, you can do everything the way you would want.', 'start': 502.691, 'duration': 2.902}, {'end': 509.576, 'text': "If you live with someone else, then there's compromises to make.", 'start': 506.094, 'duration': 3.482}, {'end': 511.818, 'text': "But in the long picture, it's better for you.", 'start': 509.656, 'duration': 2.162}, {'end': 512.879, 'text': "Well, that's it.", 'start': 511.938, 'duration': 0.941}, {'end': 513.379, 'text': "That's it.", 'start': 512.999, 'duration': 0.38}, {'end': 515.64, 'text': "There's sacrifices to be made in the short term.", 'start': 513.419, 'duration': 2.221}, {'end': 518.883, 'text': 'You know, and I mean, people have to.', 'start': 516.14, 'duration': 2.743}, {'end': 527.649, 'text': "The effort issue is like, well, when you're in love with someone, you're going to organize your schedule and make them a priority.", 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556.265, 'duration': 6.006}, {'end': 568.652, 'text': 'They have to spend 90 minutes a week together talking about their lives, about how the house is run,', 'start': 562.811, 'duration': 5.841}, {'end': 571.753, 'text': "about what they've all been doing to keep their stories caught up right?", 'start': 568.652, 'duration': 3.101}, {'end': 573.413, 'text': "That's not really even that much.", 'start': 572.153, 'duration': 1.26}, {'end': 574.354, 'text': "No, it's not.", 'start': 573.713, 'duration': 0.641}, {'end': 574.934, 'text': "It's not.", 'start': 574.534, 'duration': 0.4}, {'end': 576.714, 'text': "It's not that much.", 'start': 575.414, 'duration': 1.3}], 'summary': 'Maintaining a relationship requires spending 90 minutes a week together, as observed clinically.', 'duration': 28.055, 'max_score': 548.659, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/n-SVPsGMPi8/pics/n-SVPsGMPi8548659.jpg'}], 'start': 382.898, 'title': 'Challenges and commitment 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