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Susan Cain: The Power of Introverts and Loneliness | Lex Fridman Podcast #298

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Susan Cain is the author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking, and Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole. Please support this podcast by checking out our sponsors: - Brave: https://brave.com/lex - Skiff: https://skiff.org/lex to get early access - Mizzen+Main: https://mizzenandmain.com and use code LEX to get $35 off - Athletic Greens: https://athleticgreens.com/lex and use code LEX to get 1 month of fish oil - InsideTracker: https://insidetracker.com/lex to get 20% off EPISODE LINKS: Susan's Twitter: https://twitter.com/susancain Susan's Instagram: https://instagram.com/susancainauthor Susan's Website: https://susancain.net Bittersweet (book): https://amzn.to/3xE0LWt Quiet (book): https://amzn.to/3QvpOmb PODCAST INFO: Podcast website: https://lexfridman.com/podcast Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/2lwqZIr Spotify: https://spoti.fi/2nEwCF8 RSS: https://lexfridman.com/feed/podcast/ Full episodes playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLrAXtmErZgOdP_8GztsuKi9nrraNbKKp4 Clips playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLrAXtmErZgOeciFP3CBCIEElOJeitOr41 OUTLINE: 0:00 - Introduction 0:51 - Introverts 18:51 - Small talk 23:45 - Artistic expression 36:12 - Sad music 43:50 - Leonard Cohen 54:43 - Public speaking 1:01:59 - Podcasts 1:09:34 - Famous Blue Raincoat by Leonard Cohen 1:24:55 - Creativity and sadness 1:33:12 - Dark moments 1:41:14 - Parenting 1:50:08 - Advice for young people 1:53:18 - Meaning of life SOCIAL: - Twitter: https://twitter.com/lexfridman - LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lexfridman - Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lexfridman - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lexfridman - Medium: https://medium.com/@lexfridman - Reddit: https://reddit.com/r/lexfridman - Support on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/lexfridman

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'text': 'And I love that.', 'start': 1202.046, 'duration': 0.62}], 'summary': 'Career known for anti-small talk, leading to deep conversations from the first hello.', 'duration': 21.6, 'max_score': 1181.066, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/j4PEu4sVD40/pics/j4PEu4sVD401181066.jpg'}, {'end': 1251.762, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 1225.444, 'weight': 8, 'content': [{'end': 1230.968, 'text': 'I felt like I was friends with him because I was a fan of his podcast.', 'start': 1225.444, 'duration': 5.524}, {'end': 1233.17, 'text': "I feel like it's a friendship.", 'start': 1232.049, 'duration': 1.121}, {'end': 1239.835, 'text': "I know it's a one-way friendship with all the people I listen to in podcasts, and even people who are no longer with us, like writers.", 'start': 1233.23, 'duration': 6.605}, {'end': 1242.397, 'text': 'I feel like I have a relationship with them.', 'start': 1241.036, 'duration': 1.361}, {'end': 1243.157, 'text': "Maybe I'm 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writer,', 'start': 1425.437, 'duration': 5.263}, {'end': 1437.824, 'text': "artist or musician manages to express something you've always felt but never articulated, or at least never quite so beautifully.", 'start': 1430.7, 'duration': 7.124}, {'end': 1447.57, 'text': "So that's the Oscar Wilde line is one line like that, but just a line from a song or maybe a piece of art that just grabs you.", 'start': 1438.565, 'duration': 9.005}, {'end': 1453.652, 'text': "Is there something that jumps out into memory like that for you? I don't know if I have an exact line though.", 'start': 1447.59, 'duration': 6.062}], 'summary': 'Sublime moments when artists express unarticulated feelings resonate with people.', 'duration': 28.215, 'max_score': 1425.437, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/j4PEu4sVD40/pics/j4PEu4sVD401425437.jpg'}, {'end': 1847.919, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 1813.167, 'weight': 10, 'content': [{'end': 1818.209, 'text': "It's also, those are the most beautiful moments I think life offers.", 'start': 1813.167, 'duration': 5.042}, {'end': 1825.651, 'text': "I mean, it's intense, intense beauty in those moments because it's getting closer to the real thing that we long for.", 'start': 1818.449, 'duration': 7.202}, {'end': 1830.595, 'text': 'So what about, like loss, losing love?', 'start': 1826.874, 'duration': 3.721}, {'end': 1836.056, 'text': 'Is that also a beautiful thing??', 'start': 1831.555, 'duration': 4.501}, {'end': 1847.919, 'text': "Well, the moments you're talking about, I think it's easier to appreciate the beauty of it all in the moment because you're experiencing,", 'start': 1836.996, 'duration': 10.923}], 'summary': 'Intense beauty in moments of loss and love, easier to appreciate in the moment.', 'duration': 34.752, 'max_score': 1813.167, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/j4PEu4sVD40/pics/j4PEu4sVD401813167.jpg'}, {'end': 2007.704, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 1981.471, 'weight': 6, 'content': [{'end': 1988.873, 'text': 'It could be the most sort of prolonged experience of deep appreciation and emotion and so on.', 'start': 1981.471, 'duration': 7.402}, {'end': 1993.695, 'text': "So that's kind of a, that's a nice way to look at loss.", 'start': 1989.434, 'duration': 4.261}, {'end': 1998.218, 'text': 'which is a reminder of how much somebody meant to us.', 'start': 1995.256, 'duration': 2.962}, {'end': 2007.704, 'text': "Yeah, I think there's a lot of truth in that, because you wouldn't care so much if it weren't something that mattered to you.", 'start': 1998.558, 'duration': 9.146}], 'summary': 'Loss can lead to prolonged deep appreciation and emotion, highlighting the significance of the person.', 'duration': 26.233, 'max_score': 1981.471, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/j4PEu4sVD40/pics/j4PEu4sVD401981471.jpg'}, {'end': 2055.293, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 2030.398, 'weight': 11, 'content': [{'end': 2037.722, 'text': "you see this idea that the longing for what you lack is the very thing that gives you what you're longing for.", 'start': 2030.398, 'duration': 7.324}, {'end': 2039.443, 'text': 'So the longing is the cure.', 'start': 2038.363, 'duration': 1.08}, {'end': 2043.746, 'text': "I mean, that's the way the Sufi poet Rumi puts it, the longing is the cure.", 'start': 2039.463, 'duration': 4.283}, {'end': 2047.628, 'text': 'You know, and he says, be thirsty, like be as thirsty as you possibly can.', 'start': 2044.546, 'duration': 3.082}, {'end': 2049.149, 'text': "That's what you want to be.", 'start': 2048.509, 'duration': 0.64}, {'end': 2052.071, 'text': 'The good stuff is the wanting, not the having.', 'start': 2049.969, 'duration': 2.102}, {'end': 2055.293, 'text': 'Yeah, yeah.', 'start': 2054.152, 'duration': 1.141}], 'summary': 'Longing for what you lack is the cure, according to sufi poet rumi.', 'duration': 24.895, 'max_score': 2030.398, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/j4PEu4sVD40/pics/j4PEu4sVD402030398.jpg'}], 'start': 539.272, 'title': 'Remote work and human connections', 'summary': 'Discusses the draining nature of zoom meetings, the impact of self-presentation, and the importance of in-person interactions in a remote work environment. it also explores the complexities of human connections, the impact of the pandemic on family dynamics, and the value of meaningful interactions.', 'chapters': [{'end': 817.834, 'start': 539.272, 'title': 'Zoom meetings and remote work', 'summary': 'Discusses the draining nature of zoom meetings, the impact of self-presentation, and the importance of in-person interactions in a remote work environment, emphasizing the need for a deep understanding of the draining effects and the value of team building.', 'duration': 278.562, 'highlights': ['Zoom meetings are draining, particularly for introverts, due to the ability to invite a larger number of people and the constant self-presentation pressure, leading to a need for a deep understanding of their draining nature and potential adjustments in scheduling and participation. Zoom meetings are draining, especially for introverts, as they can invite a larger number of people and involve constant self-presentation pressure, which requires a deep understanding of their draining nature and potential adjustments in scheduling and participation.', "The impact of self-presentation during Zoom meetings creates an extra cognitive load, affecting the ability to be in the moment and act naturally, indicating a need for further study on the psychological effects of seeing one's own face on camera. The impact of self-presentation during Zoom meetings creates an extra cognitive load, affecting the ability to be in the moment and act naturally, indicating a need for further study on the psychological effects of seeing one's own face on camera.", 'In-person interactions contribute to team building and chemistry, even in work meetings, highlighting the value of in-person communication and the potential loneliness associated with remote work and Zoom meetings. In-person interactions contribute to team building and chemistry, even in work meetings, highlighting the value of in-person communication and the potential loneliness associated with remote work and Zoom meetings.']}, {'end': 1133.657, 'start': 818.855, 'title': 'Social interaction and personal optimization', 'summary': 'Discusses the complexity of social interaction, the impact of the pandemic on family dynamics, and the optimization of personal life, emphasizing the importance of redefining work-life balance and loneliness.', 'duration': 314.802, 'highlights': ['The pandemic strengthened family dynamics and provided an opportunity for reconnecting with kids, contributing to an often beautiful strengthening of the family unit. The pandemic allowed for significant family bonding and reconnection, highlighting the positive impact of spending quality time with family members.', 'The need to redefine work-life balance and optimize personal life, considering factors such as loneliness, happiness, productivity, and family interaction, becomes increasingly important as remote work options evolve. The discussion emphasizes the significance of redefining work-life balance and optimizing personal life, especially with the evolving remote work options, prioritizing factors such as loneliness, happiness, productivity, and family interaction.', 'The concept of personal optimization in terms of social interaction and work-life balance is explored, allowing individuals to consider various options and elements to enhance their overall well-being. 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{'end': 3259.295, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 3214.541, 'weight': 0, 'content': [{'end': 3223.468, 'text': "Distorting words in interesting ways for there to be a rhythm, a rhyme, and at the same time, you're capturing some really powerful message.", 'start': 3214.541, 'duration': 8.927}, {'end': 3227.633, 'text': 'plus humor, all of that mixed in.', 'start': 3225.371, 'duration': 2.262}, {'end': 3231.034, 'text': "Actually, hip hop does a really good job of this, but there wasn't a tradition.", 'start': 3227.693, 'duration': 3.341}, {'end': 3235.697, 'text': "if you look at poetry in the 20th century, there wasn't really a tradition of that in the United States,", 'start': 3231.034, 'duration': 4.663}, {'end': 3238.938, 'text': 'but there was in other parts of the world and certainly in Russia.', 'start': 3235.697, 'duration': 3.241}, {'end': 3245.462, 'text': 'Empowered also, not just by the language, by the fact that you go through a world war where tens of millions of people die.', 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dreams the next day.', 'start': 7134.754, 'duration': 3.761}, {'end': 7142.936, 'text': 'They love music, nature, art, and physical beauty.', 'start': 7139.315, 'duration': 3.621}, {'end': 7151.547, 'text': 'They feel exceptionally strong emotions, sometimes acute bouts of joy, but also sorrow, melancholy, and fear.', 'start': 7144.002, 'duration': 7.545}, {'end': 7159.713, 'text': 'Highly sensitive people also process information about their environments, both physical and emotional, unusually deeply.', 'start': 7152.648, 'duration': 7.065}, {'end': 7169.7, 'text': "They tend to notice subtleties that others miss, another person's shifted mood, or a light bulb burning a touch too brightly.", 'start': 7160.694, 'duration': 9.006}], 'summary': 'Highly sensitive introverts are philosophical, dislike small talk, and have vivid dreams.', 'duration': 59.74, 'max_score': 7109.96, 'thumbnail': 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questions the potential for a future operating under different moral systems. fundamental aspects of human nature, questioning different moral systems', 'The potential future of merging human consciousness with technology, exploring the idea of offloading human consciousness into machines and the ethical implications of engineering superhuman intelligence systems. merging human consciousness with technology, offloading human consciousness into machines, ethical implications of engineering superhuman intelligence systems', 'Discussion on the potential for science to deeply understand emotions such as sadness and love, touching upon the activation of the vagus nerve when witnessing distress and the evolutionary impulse to respond to it. understanding emotions, activation of the vagus nerve, evolutionary impulse to respond to distress']}, {'end': 7174.256, 'start': 6599.912, 'title': 'Career and life advice for young people', 'summary': "Emphasizes the importance of pursuing one's passion 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