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Why Lex Fridman is single | Part 3
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This is why Alexa's single response.", 'start': 723.216, 'duration': 6.765}, {'end': 740.814, 'text': "Any advice? Yeah, actually this comes from a friend of mine who's in a really excellent marriage with great kids and family and high demand life.", 'start': 730.421, 'duration': 10.393}, {'end': 743.035, 'text': "It's a decision.", 'start': 742.255, 'duration': 0.78}, {'end': 750.744, 'text': "Like at some point you just prioritize it as, okay, I'm going to make this happen one way or another.", 'start': 743.355, 'duration': 7.389}, {'end': 754.245, 'text': "And you don't force the discovery of that person.", 'start': 751.245, 'duration': 3}, {'end': 758.646, 'text': "But I mean, I've occasionally said, hey, I think you should meet this person or that person.", 'start': 754.285, 'duration': 4.361}, {'end': 764.547, 'text': "And well, it wasn't maybe my judgment might have been off, but the timing wasn't right or something.", 'start': 758.866, 'duration': 5.681}, {'end': 766.988, 'text': "But I think that, yeah, it's a decision.", 'start': 764.887, 'duration': 2.101}, {'end': 769.328, 'text': 'And 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952.621, 'text': 'Thank you for being you.', 'start': 951.461, 'duration': 1.16}, {'end': 953.622, 'text': 'Thank you for talking today.', 'start': 952.661, 'duration': 0.961}], 'summary': 'Creating great stuff together, fostering friendships, and connecting interesting people. expressing deep gratitude and appreciation.', 'duration': 26.693, 'max_score': 926.929, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/X_QDjrx1Y84/pics/X_QDjrx1Y84926929.jpg'}, {'end': 1002.624, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 965.848, 'weight': 6, 'content': [{'end': 972.151, 'text': "The Human Lab Podcast, as I always say, only exists because you gave me the suggestion and I'm so grateful that you did.", 'start': 965.848, 'duration': 6.303}, {'end': 973.312, 'text': 'So thank you.', 'start': 972.691, 'duration': 0.621}, {'end': 979.737, 'text': "And for doing what you do, like you, you are brave and you were first man in and you're just continue to do it.", 'start': 973.832, 'duration': 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