title
DISOWNED BY MY FAMILY - 2 MONTHS LATER (How it ended up this way) | #grindreel

description
🔥 NEW! Resume Reviews, Custom Resumes and Templates, Courses, and Consultations! https://joshuafluke.teachable.com/ ❤️ Support me because corporate sponsors rarely do! https://www.patreon.com/joshuafluke 👊 Join the community! https://discord.gg/Joshuafluke My Other Socials🤳 https://www.tiktok.com/@joshua_fluke https://www.instagram.com/joshuafluke/ 📸 https://twitter.com/joshuafluke 🐦 📧 Email me directly!: grindreel@gmail.com 📧 Business inquiries: Joshuafluke@thoughtleaders.io My Gear ⚙️: https://kit.co/JoshuaFluke

detail
{'title': 'DISOWNED BY MY FAMILY - 2 MONTHS LATER (How it ended up this way) | #grindreel', 'heatmap': [{'end': 434.494, 'start': 417.679, 'weight': 0.815}, {'end': 771.76, 'start': 744.585, 'weight': 1}], 'summary': 'Explores family dynamics, including the impact of being disowned, justifying public sharing of family issues, parental responsibility, and breaking free from family expectations. it delves into struggles with religious parents, family expectations, and a journey of self-discovery, emphasizing the desire for independence and validation from similar experiences.', 'chapters': [{'end': 215.156, 'segs': [{'end': 48.571, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 17.8, 'weight': 0, 'content': [{'end': 20.082, 'text': 'They even asked you not to share it and you shared it anyways.', 'start': 17.8, 'duration': 2.282}, {'end': 21.703, 'text': "You don't respect their right to privacy.", 'start': 20.102, 'duration': 1.601}, {'end': 29.087, 'text': "And what I would like to say is you don't have a right to privacy if you emotionally manipulate someone, if you lie to someone,", 'start': 22.004, 'duration': 7.083}, {'end': 30.668, 'text': 'if you steal from someone.', 'start': 29.087, 'duration': 1.581}, {'end': 33.449, 'text': 'That right to privacy is gone.', 'start': 31.628, 'duration': 1.821}, {'end': 35.61, 'text': "If you don't want to be shamed, don't do shameful stuff.", 'start': 33.489, 'duration': 2.121}, {'end': 42.828, 'text': 'And I received a comment that said specifically, they even asked you not to share this message and you shared it anyways.', 'start': 35.81, 'duration': 7.018}, {'end': 48.571, 'text': "And what I would say to that is like, it's like if someone stole from you and said, I'm going to steal this from you, but don't share it.", 'start': 42.968, 'duration': 5.603}], 'summary': "Rights to privacy revoked when emotionally manipulate, lie, or steal; don't want to be shamed, don't do shameful stuff.", 'duration': 30.771, 'max_score': 17.8, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/S-9U2Pjhg0Y/pics/S-9U2Pjhg0Y17800.jpg'}, {'end': 82.792, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 53.673, 'weight': 2, 'content': [{'end': 56.915, 'text': "You shouldn't be controlled by what your family thinks of you.", 'start': 53.673, 'duration': 3.242}, {'end': 61.337, 'text': "You shouldn't be afraid of dishonoring your family because I'm not dishonoring my family.", 'start': 57.295, 'duration': 4.042}, {'end': 62.477, 'text': 'They dishonored themselves.', 'start': 61.357, 'duration': 1.12}, {'end': 64.117, 'text': 'They should be ashamed for what they did.', 'start': 62.898, 'duration': 1.219}, {'end': 67.204, 'text': "I shouldn't be shamed for what they did to me for sharing what they did to me.", 'start': 64.238, 'duration': 2.966}, {'end': 68.144, 'text': "That's not how this works.", 'start': 67.324, 'duration': 0.82}, {'end': 69.725, 'text': "That's not how this works at all.", 'start': 68.804, 'duration': 0.921}, {'end': 77.929, 'text': "You don't owe your parents everything just because they brought you into this world, which is a line that I see quite often.", 'start': 71.186, 'duration': 6.743}, {'end': 82.792, 'text': "They say, you know, you owe your parents everything because they brought you in to this world and without them you'd have nothing.", 'start': 78.229, 'duration': 4.563}], 'summary': "Don't be controlled by family opinions. parents don't deserve everything for bringing you into the world.", 'duration': 29.119, 'max_score': 53.673, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/S-9U2Pjhg0Y/pics/S-9U2Pjhg0Y53673.jpg'}, {'end': 133.747, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 107.068, 'weight': 3, 'content': [{'end': 110.65, 'text': 'You can take care of them if you want to, if you love them, if they raised you right, if they treated you good,', 'start': 107.068, 'duration': 3.582}, {'end': 113.031, 'text': 'if they gave you good values and you respect them.', 'start': 110.65, 'duration': 2.381}, {'end': 113.891, 'text': 'Yeah, sure.', 'start': 113.431, 'duration': 0.46}, {'end': 114.552, 'text': 'Give back to them.', 'start': 113.952, 'duration': 0.6}, {'end': 114.952, 'text': 'Help them.', 'start': 114.592, 'duration': 0.36}, {'end': 118.735, 'text': "But what if your parents weren't like that? You still don't owe them that.", 'start': 115.112, 'duration': 3.623}, {'end': 122.218, 'text': "You'll see this in a lot of different cultures throughout the world.", 'start': 118.955, 'duration': 3.263}, {'end': 124.84, 'text': 'In the Middle East, family is a big thing.', 'start': 123.219, 'duration': 1.621}, {'end': 129.424, 'text': "You can't say anything against tradition, against culture, against your parents.", 'start': 125.04, 'duration': 4.384}, {'end': 132.046, 'text': "You know, you're basically, they're everything.", 'start': 129.484, 'duration': 2.562}, {'end': 133.747, 'text': "You don't want to bring dishonor to your family.", 'start': 132.066, 'duration': 1.681}], 'summary': 'Cultural expectations of caring for parents vary, not universally obligatory.', 'duration': 26.679, 'max_score': 107.068, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/S-9U2Pjhg0Y/pics/S-9U2Pjhg0Y107068.jpg'}, {'end': 173.503, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 142.558, 'weight': 6, 'content': [{'end': 143.379, 'text': "That's not how this works.", 'start': 142.558, 'duration': 0.821}, {'end': 148.782, 'text': "It's like, it's not a multi-level marketing thing, you know? You don't have kids so that your kids take care of you like little slaves.", 'start': 143.419, 'duration': 5.363}, {'end': 153.445, 'text': 'And I constantly see people being controlled by what their parents are going to think of them.', 'start': 149.022, 'duration': 4.423}, {'end': 155.086, 'text': 'In dating, you see people get together.', 'start': 153.545, 'duration': 1.541}, {'end': 158.008, 'text': "The girl's like, well, I can't date you unless my dad approves of you.", 'start': 155.226, 'duration': 2.782}, {'end': 161.878, 'text': "I can't date you unless my mom approves of you.", 'start': 160.137, 'duration': 1.741}, {'end': 163.299, 'text': "Oh, my parents wouldn't like that.", 'start': 162.058, 'duration': 1.241}, {'end': 165.099, 'text': "Oh, we can't because my mom and dad would think.", 'start': 163.319, 'duration': 1.78}, {'end': 165.9, 'text': "You're grown adults.", 'start': 165.119, 'duration': 0.781}, {'end': 167.42, 'text': "It doesn't matter what they think anymore.", 'start': 166.04, 'duration': 1.38}, {'end': 173.503, 'text': 'What ends up happening is most parents shame their children for being different or wanting to be more or bigger and better than the family.', 'start': 167.621, 'duration': 5.882}], 'summary': "Many people are controlled by parents' opinions, impacting dating and personal growth.", 'duration': 30.945, 'max_score': 142.558, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/S-9U2Pjhg0Y/pics/S-9U2Pjhg0Y142558.jpg'}, {'end': 215.156, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 173.864, 'weight': 4, 'content': [{'end': 176.725, 'text': 'Instead of supporting them for being unique, you get shamed for being different.', 'start': 173.864, 'duration': 2.861}, {'end': 187.19, 'text': 'But anyways, when I was a kid, we would always have to go to these family events where my grandmother would constantly say family is everything, Josh.', 'start': 177.165, 'duration': 10.025}, {'end': 191.975, 'text': 'Family and church and the Lord is everything.', 'start': 187.59, 'duration': 4.385}, {'end': 198.86, 'text': "And we'd have to go to these family events for Thanksgiving and Christmas and birthdays and whatever, and none of us ever got along.", 'start': 192.675, 'duration': 6.185}, {'end': 205.085, 'text': "You see, my family, my parents, we were the black sheep family of the family, and I'm the black sheep of that.", 'start': 199.1, 'duration': 5.985}, {'end': 207.527, 'text': "I'm even further away from all of that.", 'start': 206.085, 'duration': 1.442}, {'end': 211.915, 'text': 'See, my parents, were constantly afraid of what their parents thought of them.', 'start': 208.727, 'duration': 3.188}, {'end': 214.336, 'text': 'My dad..', 'start': 212.456, 'duration': 1.88}, {'end': 215.156, 'text': "My dad's not religious.", 'start': 214.336, 'duration': 0.82}], 'summary': "Despite family pressure, being unique is valued; the speaker, a black sheep, didn't fit in. his non-religious dad faced scrutiny.", 'duration': 41.292, 'max_score': 173.864, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/S-9U2Pjhg0Y/pics/S-9U2Pjhg0Y173864.jpg'}], 'start': 0.083, 'title': 'Family dynamics', 'summary': 'Delves into family dynamics, including reflections on being disowned, justifying public sharing of family issues, parental responsibility, and breaking free from family expectations. it emphasizes the forfeiture of privacy rights with dishonesty, challenges the notion of children owing everything to parents, and discusses the impact of family expectations on personal growth.', 'chapters': [{'end': 53.313, 'start': 0.083, 'title': 'Family reflection and privacy rights', 'summary': "Discusses the speaker's reflection on being disowned and justifying the public sharing of family issues by emphasizing that privacy rights are forfeited when one engages in dishonest or manipulative behavior.", 'duration': 53.23, 'highlights': ['The right to privacy is forfeited when one emotionally manipulates, lies, or steals from others, justifying the public airing of family issues (e.g., comments about not respecting privacy rights).', 'Analogizes the loss of privacy rights to being similar to someone stealing and asking not to share the act, emphasizing that such requests are invalid when the behavior is shameful.']}, {'end': 141.858, 'start': 53.673, 'title': 'Parental responsibility and respect', 'summary': "Emphasizes the idea that children don't owe everything to their parents and challenges the notion that children owe their parents everything, highlighting the parents' responsibility to raise and take care of their children.", 'duration': 88.185, 'highlights': ["Parents owe their children everything because they brought them into this world, and it is their duty to raise and take care of them, not a privilege or gift (quantifiable data: emphasizes parents' responsibility).", "The chapter challenges the notion that children owe their parents everything and emphasizes that children shouldn't be afraid to share their experiences of mistreatment by their parents, rejecting the idea of dishonoring the family (quantifiable data: emphasis on children's right to share their experiences).", 'The speaker encourages the idea of taking care of parents if they were loving and respectful, but emphasizes that children do not owe care to parents who did not treat them well, highlighting the importance of mutual respect (quantifiable data: emphasis on reciprocity in the parent-child relationship).']}, {'end': 215.156, 'start': 142.558, 'title': 'Breaking free from family expectations', 'summary': 'Discusses the influence of family expectations on individuals, highlighting the pressure to conform and the impact of parental approval on dating and personal growth.', 'duration': 72.598, 'highlights': ["Parents exert control over children's dating choices based on their approval, leading to restrictive relationships.", 'Individuals are shamed for being different or wanting to pursue bigger and better goals within the family dynamic.', "The speaker's family, labeled as the 'black sheep,' struggled with the pressure of conforming to religious and family-centric expectations.", "The impact of parental influence on the speaker's father, who defied religious expectations despite the fear of judgment from his parents."]}], 'duration': 215.073, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/S-9U2Pjhg0Y/pics/S-9U2Pjhg0Y83.jpg', 'highlights': ['The right to privacy is forfeited when one emotionally manipulates, lies, or steals from others, justifying the public airing of family issues (e.g., comments about not respecting privacy rights).', 'Analogizes the loss of privacy rights to being similar to someone stealing and asking not to share the act, emphasizing that such requests are invalid when the behavior is shameful.', "The chapter challenges the notion that children owe their parents everything and emphasizes that children shouldn't be afraid to share their experiences of mistreatment by their parents, rejecting the idea of dishonoring the family (quantifiable data: emphasis on children's right to share their experiences).", 'The speaker encourages the idea of taking care of parents if they were loving and respectful, but emphasizes that children do not owe care to parents who did not treat them well, highlighting the importance of mutual respect (quantifiable data: emphasis on reciprocity in the parent-child relationship).', "The impact of parental influence on the speaker's father, who defied religious expectations despite the fear of judgment from his parents.", "The speaker's family, labeled as the 'black sheep,' struggled with the pressure of conforming to religious and family-centric expectations.", "Parents exert control over children's dating choices based on their approval, leading to restrictive relationships.", 'Individuals are shamed for being different or wanting to pursue bigger and better goals within the family dynamic.']}, {'end': 569.121, 'segs': [{'end': 290.241, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 215.236, 'weight': 0, 'content': [{'end': 216.156, 'text': "I know he's not religious.", 'start': 215.236, 'duration': 0.92}, {'end': 217.557, 'text': "He's told me he's not very religious.", 'start': 216.176, 'duration': 1.381}, {'end': 219.457, 'text': 'But he would never tell his parents that.', 'start': 218.117, 'duration': 1.34}, {'end': 223.158, 'text': 'And he would constantly let his parents push things onto him.', 'start': 219.717, 'duration': 3.441}, {'end': 226.078, 'text': 'He was too afraid to tell his parents what he really thought.', 'start': 224.098, 'duration': 1.98}, {'end': 232.22, 'text': 'His parents would share these crazy articles from Breitbart to his Facebook page about how, if you just breathe deeply,', 'start': 226.319, 'duration': 5.901}, {'end': 236.181, 'text': 'it will breathe in the Holy Spirit and it will cure your coronavirus.', 'start': 232.22, 'duration': 3.961}, {'end': 239.923, 'text': 'And my dad would not tell his mom to stop sharing these things with him.', 'start': 236.381, 'duration': 3.542}, {'end': 240.644, 'text': "It's ridiculous.", 'start': 240.003, 'duration': 0.641}, {'end': 241.765, 'text': "You're being crazy, Grandma.", 'start': 240.664, 'duration': 1.101}, {'end': 247.449, 'text': "They would send him constant books of religion and whatever, and he wouldn't tell his parents.", 'start': 242.726, 'duration': 4.723}, {'end': 249.131, 'text': "He'd say, well, they're just old, Josh.", 'start': 247.469, 'duration': 1.662}, {'end': 250.872, 'text': 'You know, I just want to..', 'start': 249.151, 'duration': 1.721}, {'end': 252.894, 'text': 'Stop Just stop, Dad.', 'start': 250.872, 'duration': 2.022}, {'end': 254.255, 'text': 'Like, tell him what you think.', 'start': 252.914, 'duration': 1.341}, {'end': 255.776, 'text': 'Tell him to please leave this topic alone.', 'start': 254.315, 'duration': 1.461}, {'end': 256.937, 'text': 'Because I did.', 'start': 256.377, 'duration': 0.56}, {'end': 259.459, 'text': 'They constantly did that to me as a child.', 'start': 257.517, 'duration': 1.942}, {'end': 261.701, 'text': 'They would try to send..', 'start': 259.478, 'duration': 2.223}, {'end': 267.446, 'text': 'They would do all kinds of crazy church things, you know? They would send me to Bible camp.', 'start': 261.701, 'duration': 5.745}, {'end': 270.537, 'text': 'for two weeks where you had to speak in tongues all day, every day.', 'start': 268.134, 'duration': 2.403}, {'end': 273.64, 'text': 'They would make me go to these small group meetings.', 'start': 270.837, 'duration': 2.803}, {'end': 275.762, 'text': 'They would make me do all these things.', 'start': 273.96, 'duration': 1.802}, {'end': 277.244, 'text': 'Until one day I said, stop.', 'start': 276.043, 'duration': 1.201}, {'end': 278.585, 'text': "I don't want to talk about this anymore.", 'start': 277.264, 'duration': 1.321}, {'end': 280.187, 'text': "I'm not interested in this anymore.", 'start': 279.046, 'duration': 1.141}, {'end': 280.648, 'text': "I'm done.", 'start': 280.407, 'duration': 0.241}, {'end': 282.27, 'text': 'But my parents would never do that.', 'start': 281.268, 'duration': 1.002}, {'end': 289.02, 'text': 'My parents were always very cognizant of whatever their parents thought about, and They were always afraid to go the opposite direction,', 'start': 282.83, 'duration': 6.19}, {'end': 290.241, 'text': 'because I guess they were brainwashed.', 'start': 289.02, 'duration': 1.221}], 'summary': "A man's struggle with his parents' religious beliefs and their pressure on him to conform, despite his own beliefs and objections.", 'duration': 75.005, 'max_score': 215.236, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/S-9U2Pjhg0Y/pics/S-9U2Pjhg0Y215236.jpg'}, {'end': 395.102, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 368.012, 'weight': 3, 'content': [{'end': 374.574, 'text': "They would constantly just pressure my family to go do things, and my family never had the guts to say, no, we're going to go do our own thing.", 'start': 368.012, 'duration': 6.562}, {'end': 377.756, 'text': "And I find that I'm not the only one that experienced this growing up.", 'start': 375.255, 'duration': 2.501}, {'end': 382.237, 'text': 'A lot of other people have gone their own way from their families.', 'start': 378.736, 'duration': 3.501}, {'end': 385.078, 'text': "A lot of people have emailed me and said, Josh, I'm glad you made that video.", 'start': 382.617, 'duration': 2.461}, {'end': 390.58, 'text': "I cut my parents off X amount of years ago, and it was the best thing I've ever done, and my life ended up a thousand times better because of it.", 'start': 385.518, 'duration': 5.062}, {'end': 395.102, 'text': "But those people, you know, maybe they don't have a platform to talk about it, or maybe they get shamed just the same as I did.", 'start': 390.72, 'duration': 4.382}], 'summary': 'Many individuals have cut off family ties for better lives; some express gratitude for doing so.', 'duration': 27.09, 'max_score': 368.012, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/S-9U2Pjhg0Y/pics/S-9U2Pjhg0Y368012.jpg'}, {'end': 445.862, 'src': 'heatmap', 'start': 417.679, 'weight': 0.815, 'content': [{'end': 421.583, 'text': "I wasn't interested in mechanics, I wasn't interested in taking things apart and putting them back together.", 'start': 417.679, 'duration': 3.904}, {'end': 428.489, 'text': 'One time we were building models in the garage and I got bored and said I wanted to do something else and go back to playing Sonic on my Sega.', 'start': 422.183, 'duration': 6.306}, {'end': 434.494, 'text': 'And my dad looks at me and goes, Josh, do you just not like this stuff? And I said, no, not really, Dad.', 'start': 429.29, 'duration': 5.204}, {'end': 435.555, 'text': "Sega's more fun.", 'start': 434.875, 'duration': 0.68}, {'end': 439.279, 'text': 'And from that moment, it felt like he just kind of wrote me off.', 'start': 436.356, 'duration': 2.923}, {'end': 441.08, 'text': 'as a son.', 'start': 440.619, 'duration': 0.461}, {'end': 443.741, 'text': "He didn't really want to engage with me anymore.", 'start': 442.02, 'duration': 1.721}, {'end': 445.862, 'text': "He didn't offer to do any more projects with me.", 'start': 443.881, 'duration': 1.981}], 'summary': "Josh's disinterest in mechanics led to his father losing interest in engaging with him in projects.", 'duration': 28.183, 'max_score': 417.679, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/S-9U2Pjhg0Y/pics/S-9U2Pjhg0Y417679.jpg'}, {'end': 480.102, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 452.865, 'weight': 2, 'content': [{'end': 456.007, 'text': "I didn't have the same interests as him and I think that kind of disappointed him.", 'start': 452.865, 'duration': 3.142}, {'end': 460.749, 'text': 'And now what most people end up doing, like myself, is they try to impress their parents.', 'start': 456.207, 'duration': 4.542}, {'end': 468.628, 'text': "Most people's parents have some impression of what they want their kids to be, and when their kids aren't that mold, they become disappointed or sad,", 'start': 461.73, 'duration': 6.898}, {'end': 470.651, 'text': "and they don't embrace their kids being different from them.", 'start': 468.628, 'duration': 2.023}, {'end': 471.432, 'text': "That's what happened to me.", 'start': 470.831, 'duration': 0.601}, {'end': 477.459, 'text': 'I think he had this idea that his son was going to be this all-star football player with a bunch of cheerleader girls on each side.', 'start': 472.453, 'duration': 5.006}, {'end': 480.102, 'text': 'that was gonna be also an auto mechanic, basically Iron Man.', 'start': 477.459, 'duration': 2.643}], 'summary': "Many parents have specific expectations for their kids, which can lead to disappointment if not met, as in the case of the speaker's father.", 'duration': 27.237, 'max_score': 452.865, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/S-9U2Pjhg0Y/pics/S-9U2Pjhg0Y452865.jpg'}], 'start': 215.236, 'title': 'Struggles with family and religious expectations', 'summary': "Discusses a man's struggle with religious parents and the speaker's struggle with family expectations, including pressures, religious indoctrination, lack of shared interests, parental disappointment, leading to strained family dynamics and a desire for independence and validation from others who share similar experiences.", 'chapters': [{'end': 252.894, 'start': 215.236, 'title': 'Struggle with religious parents', 'summary': "Discusses a man's struggle with religious parents, as he hides his lack of religious beliefs from them and avoids confronting their absurd beliefs and actions regarding coronavirus, despite feeling uncomfortable. he feels pressured to accept their views and is unable to express his true thoughts, leading to strained family dynamics.", 'duration': 37.658, 'highlights': ['The man hides his lack of religious beliefs from his parents and feels pressured to accept their views, despite feeling uncomfortable (quantifiable data: personal experience).', 'His parents share absurd beliefs and actions regarding coronavirus, such as breathing deeply to cure it, and he feels unable to confront them about it (quantifiable data: specific example).', 'He avoids telling his parents what he really thinks and dismisses their behavior as due to their old age, leading to strained family dynamics (quantifiable data: avoidance of confrontation and strained family dynamics).']}, {'end': 569.121, 'start': 252.914, 'title': 'Struggles with family expectations', 'summary': "Discusses the speaker's struggle with family expectations and pressures, including religious indoctrination, lack of shared interests, and parental disappointment, leading to a desire for independence and validation from others who share similar experiences.", 'duration': 316.207, 'highlights': ["The speaker recounts being pressured by family to engage in religious activities, such as speaking in tongues at Bible camp, and feeling judged for not conforming to their beliefs. The speaker describes being sent to Bible camp for two weeks where they had to speak in tongues all day, every day, and feeling judged for not conforming to their family's religious beliefs.", "The speaker expresses frustration with the pressure to participate in family events despite feeling judged and having little in common with relatives, advocating for the freedom to choose their own path. The speaker questions the need to attend family events where they feel judged and have little in common with relatives, emphasizing the importance of choosing one's own path for happiness.", 'The speaker reflects on feeling misunderstood and neglected by their father due to their differing interests, leading to a sense of disappointment and a desire for parental validation. The speaker shares feeling neglected and disappointed by their father due to their differing interests, leading to a yearning for parental validation and understanding.']}], 'duration': 353.885, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/S-9U2Pjhg0Y/pics/S-9U2Pjhg0Y215236.jpg', 'highlights': ['The man hides his lack of religious beliefs from his parents and feels pressured to accept their views, despite feeling uncomfortable (personal experience).', 'The speaker recounts being pressured by family to engage in religious activities, such as speaking in tongues at Bible camp, and feeling judged for not conforming to their beliefs.', 'The speaker reflects on feeling misunderstood and neglected by their father due to their differing interests, leading to a sense of disappointment and a desire for parental validation.', 'The speaker expresses frustration with the pressure to participate in family events despite feeling judged and having little in common with relatives, advocating for the freedom to choose their own path.', 'His parents share absurd beliefs and actions regarding coronavirus, such as breathing deeply to cure it, and he feels unable to confront them about it (specific example).', 'The man avoids telling his parents what he really thinks and dismisses their behavior as due to their old age, leading to strained family dynamics.']}, {'end': 1128.595, 'segs': [{'end': 597.081, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 569.261, 'weight': 2, 'content': [{'end': 573.643, 'text': 'When it came to school, I had no interest in school, but I had figured out the systems of school.', 'start': 569.261, 'duration': 4.382}, {'end': 578.327, 'text': "I'd figured out that if you do the busy work that the teacher gives you, she's just going to give you more work.", 'start': 573.843, 'duration': 4.484}, {'end': 581.209, 'text': "If you get really good grades, they're just going to put you in harder classes.", 'start': 578.627, 'duration': 2.582}, {'end': 584.012, 'text': "I didn't want to do harder classes because I didn't want to do more homework.", 'start': 581.65, 'duration': 2.362}, {'end': 585.353, 'text': 'I wanted to go home and play more video games.', 'start': 584.032, 'duration': 1.321}, {'end': 591.518, 'text': 'I think if my parents just had engaged with me and asked me what my interests really were, maybe I would have ended up different.', 'start': 585.553, 'duration': 5.965}, {'end': 597.081, 'text': 'But instead, my parents thought I was the awkward kid and that something was wrong with me.', 'start': 592.179, 'duration': 4.902}], 'summary': 'Student avoided harder classes to play video games, wished for parental engagement.', 'duration': 27.82, 'max_score': 569.261, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/S-9U2Pjhg0Y/pics/S-9U2Pjhg0Y569261.jpg'}, {'end': 648.814, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 619.591, 'weight': 0, 'content': [{'end': 620.792, 'text': 'I like metal music.', 'start': 619.591, 'duration': 1.201}, {'end': 621.913, 'text': 'I like video games.', 'start': 621.132, 'duration': 0.781}, {'end': 623.574, 'text': 'I like international cultures.', 'start': 622.233, 'duration': 1.341}, {'end': 625.916, 'text': 'I like the internet and technology and all that stuff.', 'start': 623.754, 'duration': 2.162}, {'end': 630.82, 'text': 'And my mom looked at me one day and she goes, Josh, you keep saying that you have nothing in common with all these people.', 'start': 626.797, 'duration': 4.023}, {'end': 637.305, 'text': "Have you ever considered that just maybe something's wrong with you? Because my parents didn't really know what to do.", 'start': 631, 'duration': 6.305}, {'end': 640.568, 'text': "They didn't know that I had special needs because I was just so different.", 'start': 637.485, 'duration': 3.083}, {'end': 645.051, 'text': 'Because again, their parents pushed them to be some certain mold.', 'start': 641.168, 'duration': 3.883}, {'end': 646.732, 'text': 'I had no desire to go to prom.', 'start': 645.271, 'duration': 1.461}, {'end': 648.814, 'text': "I didn't even go to my high school graduation.", 'start': 646.993, 'duration': 1.821}], 'summary': 'Josh feels different due to his interests and special needs, not attending prom or high school graduation.', 'duration': 29.223, 'max_score': 619.591, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/S-9U2Pjhg0Y/pics/S-9U2Pjhg0Y619591.jpg'}, {'end': 684.578, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 655.219, 'weight': 1, 'content': [{'end': 657.581, 'text': 'I had no interest in joining cliques at school.', 'start': 655.219, 'duration': 2.362}, {'end': 659.122, 'text': 'I was not the popular kid.', 'start': 658.001, 'duration': 1.121}, {'end': 660.303, 'text': 'I was not the emo kid.', 'start': 659.202, 'duration': 1.101}, {'end': 661.704, 'text': "I wasn't the weird kid.", 'start': 660.323, 'duration': 1.381}, {'end': 664.166, 'text': 'I was just the invisible kid at school.', 'start': 661.804, 'duration': 2.362}, {'end': 669.356, 'text': 'And when it came to going to college, I had no desire to go to college.', 'start': 665.655, 'duration': 3.701}, {'end': 670.516, 'text': "I didn't know what I wanted to do.", 'start': 669.396, 'duration': 1.12}, {'end': 673.496, 'text': 'But my grandparents said, do engineering.', 'start': 671.856, 'duration': 1.64}, {'end': 675.777, 'text': 'What they told my parents, my parents told me to do engineering.', 'start': 673.596, 'duration': 2.181}, {'end': 679.917, 'text': "I was like, this isn't really exciting, but they were like, you'll have a safe job and lots of money.", 'start': 675.797, 'duration': 4.12}, {'end': 681.718, 'text': 'And I was like, oh, money sounds nice, I guess.', 'start': 680.017, 'duration': 1.701}, {'end': 682.238, 'text': "So I'll do that.", 'start': 681.738, 'duration': 0.5}, {'end': 684.578, 'text': 'My parents probably just thought I was really lazy.', 'start': 682.498, 'duration': 2.08}], 'summary': 'Unenthusiastic about school, pursued engineering for job security and money.', 'duration': 29.359, 'max_score': 655.219, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/S-9U2Pjhg0Y/pics/S-9U2Pjhg0Y655219.jpg'}, {'end': 774.303, 'src': 'heatmap', 'start': 744.585, 'weight': 1, 'content': [{'end': 745.366, 'text': 'It can keep you limited.', 'start': 744.585, 'duration': 0.781}, {'end': 746.607, 'text': 'They hold tradition over you.', 'start': 745.506, 'duration': 1.101}, {'end': 747.728, 'text': 'They hold culture over you.', 'start': 746.707, 'duration': 1.021}, {'end': 749.27, 'text': 'They hold love over you.', 'start': 747.768, 'duration': 1.502}, {'end': 752.252, 'text': "You won't have us because they raise you telling you family is everything.", 'start': 749.57, 'duration': 2.682}, {'end': 755.676, 'text': 'I hope you can go the rest of your life without talking to your family again.', 'start': 752.793, 'duration': 2.883}, {'end': 757.157, 'text': "That's a quote from my grandfather.", 'start': 755.796, 'duration': 1.361}, {'end': 758.779, 'text': 'It was the last time I ever talked to him.', 'start': 757.177, 'duration': 1.602}, {'end': 759.76, 'text': 'Never forget it.', 'start': 759.319, 'duration': 0.441}, {'end': 760.741, 'text': "That's manipulation.", 'start': 759.94, 'duration': 0.801}, {'end': 762.983, 'text': 'So I can see how they did that to my parents.', 'start': 761.361, 'duration': 1.622}, {'end': 765.274, 'text': 'And I can see how my parents did that to me.', 'start': 764.073, 'duration': 1.201}, {'end': 771.76, 'text': "These days, whenever I hear someone say, oh, you know, what would my parents think of that? My parents wouldn't approve.", 'start': 765.494, 'duration': 6.266}, {'end': 772.881, 'text': 'I just think, who the heck cares?', 'start': 771.84, 'duration': 1.041}, {'end': 773.622, 'text': 'Who cares?', 'start': 773.302, 'duration': 0.32}, {'end': 774.303, 'text': 'Why does that matter?', 'start': 773.662, 'duration': 0.641}], 'summary': "Family's influence can be manipulative, limiting personal choices and beliefs. focus on individual autonomy and values.", 'duration': 29.718, 'max_score': 744.585, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/S-9U2Pjhg0Y/pics/S-9U2Pjhg0Y744585.jpg'}], 'start': 569.261, 'title': "Josh's struggles and self-discovery", 'summary': "Highlights a student's struggles in school and social rejection, as well as josh's journey of self-discovery, including his estrangement from his family and pursuit of individual fulfillment.", 'chapters': [{'end': 618.931, 'start': 569.261, 'title': 'Struggles in school and social rejection', 'summary': 'Highlights the struggles of a student who found school uninteresting, preferred video games over harder classes, and felt socially isolated due to perceived differences with peers and lack of parental engagement.', 'duration': 49.67, 'highlights': ['The student disliked school and preferred playing video games, leading to a lack of interest in harder classes and homework.', "The student felt socially isolated and expressed a lack of interest in his peers' activities and identities, leading to difficulties in making friends.", 'The student expressed that parental engagement and understanding of his interests might have led to a different outcome in school and social interactions.']}, {'end': 1128.595, 'start': 619.591, 'title': "Josh's journey of self-discovery", 'summary': "Delves into josh's upbringing, his struggle with family expectations, and his journey towards self-discovery, highlighting his skepticism towards societal norms and his desire for personal autonomy and self-expression, ultimately leading to his estrangement from his family and his pursuit of individual fulfillment.", 'duration': 509.004, 'highlights': ["Josh's non-conformity to societal norms and family expectations, as evidenced by his disinterest in traditional milestones like prom and graduation, and his reluctance to pursue engineering despite familial pressure.", "Josh's skepticism towards religion and societal expectations, leading to his estrangement from his family and his pursuit of personal autonomy and self-expression.", "Josh's use of religion to manipulate his family's approval, showcasing his adaptive nature and strategic thinking during his formative years.", "Josh's struggle with guilt and internal conflict when prioritizing personal desires over familial expectations, demonstrating the lasting impact of his upbringing and his ongoing journey towards self-acceptance and individual fulfillment."]}], 'duration': 559.334, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/S-9U2Pjhg0Y/pics/S-9U2Pjhg0Y569261.jpg', 'highlights': ["Josh's struggle with guilt and internal conflict when prioritizing personal desires over familial expectations, demonstrating the lasting impact of his upbringing and his ongoing journey towards self-acceptance and individual fulfillment.", "Josh's non-conformity to societal norms and family expectations, as evidenced by his disinterest in traditional milestones like prom and graduation, and his reluctance to pursue engineering despite familial pressure.", 'The student disliked school and preferred playing video games, leading to a lack of interest in harder classes and homework.', "The student felt socially isolated and expressed a lack of interest in his peers' activities and identities, leading to difficulties in making friends."]}], 'highlights': ['The right to privacy is forfeited when one emotionally manipulates, lies, or steals from others, justifying the public airing of family issues (e.g., comments about not respecting privacy rights).', 'Analogizes the loss of privacy rights to being similar to someone stealing and asking not to share the act, emphasizing that such requests are invalid when the behavior is shameful.', "The chapter challenges the notion that children owe their parents everything and emphasizes that children shouldn't be afraid to share their experiences of mistreatment by their parents, rejecting the idea of dishonoring the family (quantifiable data: emphasis on children's right to share their experiences).", 'The speaker encourages the idea of taking care of parents if they were loving and respectful, but emphasizes that children do not owe care to parents who did not treat them well, highlighting the importance of mutual respect (quantifiable data: emphasis on reciprocity in the parent-child relationship).', "The impact of parental influence on the speaker's father, who defied religious expectations despite the fear of judgment from his parents.", "The speaker's family, labeled as the 'black sheep,' struggled with the pressure of conforming to religious and family-centric expectations.", "Parents exert control over children's dating choices based on their approval, leading to restrictive relationships.", 'Individuals are shamed for being different or wanting to pursue bigger and better goals within the family dynamic.', 'The man hides his lack of religious beliefs from his parents and feels pressured to accept their views, despite feeling uncomfortable (personal experience).', 'The speaker recounts being pressured by family to engage in religious activities, such as speaking in tongues at Bible camp, and feeling judged for not conforming to their beliefs.', 'The speaker reflects on feeling misunderstood and neglected by their father due to their differing interests, leading to a sense of disappointment and a desire for parental validation.', 'The speaker expresses frustration with the pressure to participate in family events despite feeling judged and having little in common with relatives, advocating for the freedom to choose their own path.', 'His parents share absurd beliefs and actions regarding coronavirus, such as breathing deeply to cure it, and he feels unable to confront them about it (specific example).', 'The man avoids telling his parents what he really thinks and dismisses their behavior as due to their old age, leading to strained family dynamics.', "Josh's struggle with guilt and internal conflict when prioritizing personal desires over familial expectations, demonstrating the lasting impact of his upbringing and his ongoing journey towards self-acceptance and individual fulfillment.", "Josh's non-conformity to societal norms and family expectations, as evidenced by his disinterest in traditional milestones like prom and graduation, and his reluctance to pursue engineering despite familial pressure.", 'The student disliked school and preferred playing video games, leading to a lack of interest in harder classes and homework.', "The student felt socially isolated and expressed a lack of interest in his peers' activities and identities, leading to difficulties in making friends."]}