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{'title': "disowned by my family...1 week later (what's changed?) | #grindreel", 'heatmap': [], 'summary': "Explores the speaker's experience of family disownment, unexpected support from strangers, and longing for genuine family connections. it delves into parental expectations, early independence, and the impact of unfulfilled parental expectations. it also highlights the struggles of lacking family support, a turning point in the relationship with the father, and the evolving family dynamics, leading to a decision to cut off contact and find peace in acceptance with support from others.", 'chapters': [{'end': 62.568, 'segs': [{'end': 27.588, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 0.1, 'weight': 0, 'content': [{'end': 3.921, 'text': "People keep asking me for an update on what's going on in my life when it comes to being disowned.", 'start': 0.1, 'duration': 3.821}, {'end': 11.744, 'text': "What I've been thinking, what I've been feeling, what I've been going through, and maybe it helps some of you guys out there in similar situations.", 'start': 4.281, 'duration': 7.463}, {'end': 16.165, 'text': 'Overall, no one has tried to contact me from my family.', 'start': 12.964, 'duration': 3.201}, {'end': 21.526, 'text': 'The email that my cousin sent me went unanswered.', 'start': 17.325, 'duration': 4.201}, {'end': 27.588, 'text': 'My response that I put in the video was the short version of a longer email with more personalized details.', 'start': 22.267, 'duration': 5.321}], 'summary': "Facing disownment, no family contact despite cousin's email.", 'duration': 27.488, 'max_score': 0.1, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE100.jpg'}, {'end': 66.152, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 42.995, 'weight': 2, 'content': [{'end': 50.277, 'text': 'But as I expected, that email was just to get me to stop putting this on social media and telling people in the public.', 'start': 42.995, 'duration': 7.282}, {'end': 52.297, 'text': "what's going on.", 'start': 51.736, 'duration': 0.561}, {'end': 55.32, 'text': "I'm not doing anything by sharing stories that happened to me.", 'start': 52.597, 'duration': 2.723}, {'end': 57.823, 'text': "Talking about that, I've received a lot of DMs.", 'start': 55.56, 'duration': 2.263}, {'end': 61.387, 'text': 'A random girl on Facebook DMed me and said, hey, if you need to talk, I can help you.', 'start': 58.143, 'duration': 3.244}, {'end': 62.568, 'text': 'I know how you feel right now.', 'start': 61.767, 'duration': 0.801}, {'end': 64.05, 'text': "I've been through all of this with my parents.", 'start': 62.628, 'duration': 1.422}, {'end': 66.152, 'text': 'Take that video down immediately, though.', 'start': 64.39, 'duration': 1.762}], 'summary': 'Received a lot of dms, including a message from a girl on facebook offering help, and was asked to take down a video.', 'duration': 23.157, 'max_score': 42.995, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE42995.jpg'}], 'start': 0.1, 'title': 'Coping with family disownment', 'summary': "Delves into the speaker's experience of family disownment, exploring their family's lack of response, the consequences of sharing their story, and the unexpected support received from strangers during this difficult period.", 'chapters': [{'end': 62.568, 'start': 0.1, 'title': 'Dealing with family disownment', 'summary': "Discusses the lack of response from the speaker's family members, the impact of sharing their story, and the support received from strangers during a challenging time of being disowned.", 'duration': 62.468, 'highlights': ['The speaker has not received any contact from their family members after being disowned. The speaker has not received any contact from their family members after being disowned, indicating a complete disconnect from their family.', "The speaker's cousin sent an email that went unanswered, and the speaker's response was not acknowledged or continued. The speaker's cousin sent an email that went unanswered, and the speaker's response was not acknowledged or continued, reflecting a lack of genuine concern or effort from the family member.", 'The speaker received support from a stranger on Facebook who empathized with their situation and offered help. The speaker received support from a stranger on Facebook who empathized with their situation and offered help, demonstrating the impact of sharing their story and reaching out for support.']}], 'duration': 62.468, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE100.jpg', 'highlights': ['The speaker has not received any contact from their family members after being disowned, indicating a complete disconnect from their family.', "The speaker's cousin sent an email that went unanswered, and the speaker's response was not acknowledged or continued, reflecting a lack of genuine concern or effort from the family member.", 'The speaker received support from a stranger on Facebook who empathized with their situation and offered help, demonstrating the impact of sharing their story and reaching out for support.']}, {'end': 330.665, 'segs': [{'end': 128.407, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 91.669, 'weight': 0, 'content': [{'end': 94.731, 'text': "when it comes to emotionally manipulating your children, because they're your children.", 'start': 91.669, 'duration': 3.062}, {'end': 96.072, 'text': 'You have to stop.', 'start': 95.371, 'duration': 0.701}, {'end': 99.869, 'text': 'there comes a point where you just have to stop.', 'start': 96.988, 'duration': 2.881}, {'end': 106.551, 'text': "And I know in other cultures it's very different, and you live with your parents and you take care of them when you're older,", 'start': 100.009, 'duration': 6.542}, {'end': 108.492, 'text': "and that's your job as a kid.", 'start': 106.551, 'duration': 1.941}, {'end': 110.592, 'text': "That's what you owe your parents.", 'start': 109.472, 'duration': 1.12}, {'end': 115.974, 'text': 'And I would respectfully disagree that you absolutely do not owe your parents anything.', 'start': 110.712, 'duration': 5.262}, {'end': 118.515, 'text': 'But I got a comment that said, let me ask you a simple question.', 'start': 116.274, 'duration': 2.241}, {'end': 121.923, 'text': 'How long did you live rent-free in their house?', 'start': 119.622, 'duration': 2.301}, {'end': 124.445, 'text': 'How long did they support you while you were growing up?', 'start': 122.183, 'duration': 2.262}, {'end': 125.285, 'text': 'A month? A year?', 'start': 124.545, 'duration': 0.74}, {'end': 127.026, 'text': '17,, 18 years of your life?', 'start': 125.305, 'duration': 1.721}, {'end': 128.407, 'text': "Think about what you're saying.", 'start': 127.346, 'duration': 1.061}], 'summary': "Parents' support for 17-18 years does not justify emotional manipulation of children.", 'duration': 36.738, 'max_score': 91.669, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE91669.jpg'}, {'end': 173.279, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 145.422, 'weight': 3, 'content': [{'end': 149.545, 'text': "Some who believe there's a supposed appropriate age, like the law, the legal age.", 'start': 145.422, 'duration': 4.123}, {'end': 153.007, 'text': "like some who believe it's it's, it's the what?", 'start': 149.545, 'duration': 3.462}, {'end': 159.611, 'text': 'Also, when I turned 13,, I tried to start my own business, babysitting animals around the neighborhood.', 'start': 153.547, 'duration': 6.064}, {'end': 162.212, 'text': 'I also had a Pokemon card trading business to make money.', 'start': 160.131, 'duration': 2.081}, {'end': 165.434, 'text': 'When I was 14, I worked at Kroger as a bag boy.', 'start': 162.753, 'duration': 2.681}, {'end': 166.255, 'text': 'I did work.', 'start': 165.794, 'duration': 0.461}, {'end': 169.196, 'text': "I did try to pull my keep, but I didn't lie to my parents.", 'start': 166.495, 'duration': 2.701}, {'end': 173.279, 'text': "I didn't steal from my parents and I didn't emotionally manipulate my parents.", 'start': 169.437, 'duration': 3.842}], 'summary': 'Started business at 13, worked at kroger at 14, no dishonesty to parents.', 'duration': 27.857, 'max_score': 145.422, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE145422.jpg'}, {'end': 230.743, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 196.899, 'weight': 1, 'content': [{'end': 197.759, 'text': 'You owe me everything.', 'start': 196.899, 'duration': 0.86}, {'end': 200.341, 'text': "I didn't choose to be brought into this world.", 'start': 198.74, 'duration': 1.601}, {'end': 208.239, 'text': 'If you choose to have a kid, you are choosing take on the responsibility of raising them all 18 years of their life.', 'start': 200.381, 'duration': 7.858}, {'end': 210.879, 'text': 'Parents are supposed to take care of their children.', 'start': 208.379, 'duration': 2.5}, {'end': 216.98, 'text': 'Children are not supposed to take care of their parents unless they want to, not because it is their duty.', 'start': 211.539, 'duration': 5.441}, {'end': 220.081, 'text': 'And people in other countries are just going to disagree.', 'start': 217, 'duration': 3.081}, {'end': 223.822, 'text': 'But like, maybe if your parents were nice to you growing up,', 'start': 220.121, 'duration': 3.701}, {'end': 230.743, 'text': "maybe if your parents didn't treat you like garbage and take and take and take and take from you, then yeah,", 'start': 223.822, 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independence, emphasizing the limit to which children owe their parents, supported by personal experiences and examples of early independence, with a strong focus on the speaker's entrepreneurial ventures and work history.", 'duration': 103.627, 'highlights': ['The speaker expresses the limit to which children owe their parents, citing instances of lying, stealing, and emotional manipulation, while acknowledging diverse cultural perspectives (e.g., living with parents and taking care of them when older).', 'The speaker counters the notion of owing parents by highlighting personal experiences, such as early entrepreneurial ventures at the age of 13, including babysitting animals and running a Pokemon card trading business.', "The chapter emphasizes the speaker's work history, including starting a business at 13 and working as a bag boy at Kroger at the age of 14, showcasing early independence and self-sufficiency.", 'The speaker challenges the concept of owing parents by questioning the duration of living rent-free and parental support, asserting that children are capable of earning their way and expressing disdain for societal norms regarding appropriate working ages.']}, {'end': 330.665, 'start': 166.495, 'title': 'Parental expectations and responsibilities', 'summary': 'Discusses the responsibility of parents to care for their children and the impact of past treatment on the willingness of children to offer support later in life, highlighting the importance of healthy relationships and the potential consequences of unfulfilled parental expectations.', 'duration': 164.17, 'highlights': ['The responsibility of parents to care for their children for 18 years and the impact of past treatment on the willingness of children to offer support later in life.', 'The significance of healthy relationships and the potential consequences of unfulfilled parental expectations.', 'The impact of parental behavior on the willingness of children to provide support later in life.']}], 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'text': 'Honestly, I just get jealous of other people having functional families.', 'start': 347.529, 'duration': 3.522}, {'end': 353.572, 'text': "And for some reason, I'm just stuck with mine.", 'start': 351.091, 'duration': 2.481}, {'end': 357.254, 'text': 'And this just sucks.', 'start': 354.653, 'duration': 2.601}, {'end': 363.177, 'text': "One of the things that really gets me is when I see families sharing things that I'm passionate about.", 'start': 357.654, 'duration': 5.523}, {'end': 370.849, 'text': "And when I see those things being passed down in the family, I feel like I'm missing out.", 'start': 364.678, 'duration': 6.171}, {'end': 373.973, 'text': 'I wish I was part of that family instead of my own many, many times.', 'start': 370.949, 'duration': 3.024}, {'end': 375.975, 'text': "I'll give you an example.", 'start': 375.194, 'duration': 0.781}, {'end': 378.058, 'text': "What I mean is like, I'm passionate about aviation.", 'start': 376.075, 'duration': 1.983}, {'end': 379.179, 'text': 'I like flying planes.', 'start': 378.178, 'duration': 1.001}, {'end': 388.023, 'text': 'And whenever I talk to people that are getting into it, I would say like eight out of 10 times, Everyone says flying has always been in our family.', 'start': 379.52, 'duration': 8.503}, {'end': 389.704, 'text': "It's just something that we've always done.", 'start': 388.063, 'duration': 1.641}], 'summary': 'Struggling with feeling left out of functional families, especially regarding aviation passion being passed down; 8 out of 10 families have aviation tradition.', 'duration': 42.175, 'max_score': 347.529, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE347529.jpg'}, {'end': 454, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 426.489, 'weight': 2, 'content': [{'end': 429.931, 'text': 'The only thing that was passed down in my family was this bullshit culty,', 'start': 426.489, 'duration': 3.442}, {'end': 434.613, 'text': 'religious stuff where you get sent to church camp and all this other nonsense.', 'start': 429.931, 'duration': 4.682}, {'end': 436.574, 'text': 'Like that was the only thing that we had in our family.', 'start': 434.673, 'duration': 1.901}, {'end': 442.898, 'text': 'I sometimes wonder how people get started with something, with doing a passion or a hobby.', 'start': 436.895, 'duration': 6.003}, {'end': 445.158, 'text': 'or living a certain lifestyle.', 'start': 443.678, 'duration': 1.48}, {'end': 452.94, 'text': 'And when I find out that their parents or their grandparents just helped them out, like, I feel jealous.', 'start': 446.459, 'duration': 6.481}, {'end': 454, 'text': "And I shouldn't.", 'start': 453.58, 'duration': 0.42}], 'summary': 'Family heritage revolves around religious activities, causing jealousy toward those with parental support for hobbies.', 'duration': 27.511, 'max_score': 426.489, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE426489.jpg'}], 'start': 331.665, 'title': 'Longing for family connection', 'summary': 'Emphasizes the desire for genuine family connections and the lack of shared passions, particularly in aviation, expressing envy towards functional families.', 'chapters': [{'end': 445.158, 'start': 331.665, 'title': 'Yearning for family connection', 'summary': 'Highlights the longing for genuine family connections and the absence of shared passions, particularly in aviation, and expresses jealousy towards functional families.', 'duration': 113.493, 'highlights': ['The speaker expresses jealousy towards other people having functional families, longing for genuine connections and support.', 'The speaker feels a sense of missing out as he sees families sharing passions, particularly in aviation, and wishes for the same in his family.', 'The speaker highlights the absence of shared passions in his family and expresses a desire to be part of a family with a common passion, contrasting it with the religious environment he was brought up in.']}], 'duration': 113.493, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE331665.jpg', 'highlights': ['The speaker expresses jealousy towards other people having functional families, longing for genuine connections and support.', 'The speaker feels a sense of missing out as he sees families sharing passions, particularly in aviation, and wishes for the same in his family.', 'The speaker highlights the absence of shared passions in his family and expresses a desire to be part of a family with a common passion, contrasting it with the religious environment he was brought up in.']}, {'end': 761.344, 'segs': [{'end': 522.07, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 481.99, 'weight': 0, 'content': [{'end': 485.571, 'text': "It must be nice to have that because I don't have any of that.", 'start': 481.99, 'duration': 3.581}, {'end': 493.734, 'text': "That's a big one for me when people say oh Josh, if you want to save money, just move back in with your parents, which literally doesn't exist for me.", 'start': 485.851, 'duration': 7.883}, {'end': 496.595, 'text': 'If anything happens to me in my situation, I have nowhere to go.', 'start': 493.894, 'duration': 2.701}, {'end': 498.195, 'text': 'I have nothing to fall back on.', 'start': 496.975, 'duration': 1.22}, {'end': 501.517, 'text': "Nothing If I lose this house, I'm homeless.", 'start': 499.336, 'duration': 2.181}, {'end': 508.261, 'text': "Obviously, I think maybe some of you guys would let me sleep on your couch or something like that, but that's how it feels.", 'start': 502.457, 'duration': 5.804}, {'end': 512.904, 'text': 'I have no fallback when it comes to a support system in my family.', 'start': 508.641, 'duration': 4.263}, {'end': 519.669, 'text': 'Thinking about that is really kind of sad and depressing, but also a little bit motivational because it keeps me doing shit.', 'start': 513.044, 'duration': 6.625}, {'end': 522.07, 'text': 'It keeps me working, keeps me hustling because I have nothing.', 'start': 519.688, 'duration': 2.382}], 'summary': 'Josh has no support system or fallback, motivating him to work hard for survival.', 'duration': 40.08, 'max_score': 481.99, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE481990.jpg'}, {'end': 574.243, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 539.864, 'weight': 1, 'content': [{'end': 541.705, 'text': "and that they're appreciated for being good parents.", 'start': 539.864, 'duration': 1.841}, {'end': 549.109, 'text': "What's really funny is that just having been a week now that I didn't have to give anyone any money has done wonders for my mental health.", 'start': 542.185, 'duration': 6.924}, {'end': 551.01, 'text': "There's no more.", 'start': 549.289, 'duration': 1.721}, {'end': 552.29, 'text': "it's Thursday.", 'start': 551.01, 'duration': 1.28}, {'end': 560.655, 'text': "I'm going to be getting a text soon here from somebody asking me for money or from somebody asking me to give somebody money, or You know,", 'start': 552.29, 'duration': 8.365}, {'end': 561.616, 'text': "it's towards the end of the month.", 'start': 560.655, 'duration': 0.961}, {'end': 562.736, 'text': "Tomorrow's the first.", 'start': 561.776, 'duration': 0.96}, {'end': 567.359, 'text': "I'm gonna be getting a text message saying, are you gonna put that money in now? I wanna go get a hamburger.", 'start': 562.856, 'duration': 4.503}, {'end': 574.243, 'text': 'Not having to give money to my parents and family has kind of changed my perspective towards my parents.', 'start': 567.739, 'duration': 6.504}], 'summary': 'Not giving money for a week improved mental health and changed perspective on parents.', 'duration': 34.379, 'max_score': 539.864, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE539864.jpg'}, {'end': 769.47, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 742.253, 'weight': 2, 'content': [{'end': 746.213, 'text': 'He just kind of did his job as a parent and just kind of said okay,', 'start': 742.253, 'duration': 3.96}, {'end': 750.136, 'text': "it was really weird to be aware that your dad just doesn't really like you as a kid.", 'start': 746.213, 'duration': 3.923}, {'end': 752.578, 'text': 'And he thinks that all your interests are stupid.', 'start': 750.396, 'duration': 2.182}, {'end': 754.139, 'text': "That's a really weird dynamic.", 'start': 753.098, 'duration': 1.041}, {'end': 759.043, 'text': 'And you just kind of exist in his household and you want a relationship with your dad.', 'start': 754.319, 'duration': 4.724}, {'end': 761.344, 'text': 'Like I wanted a relationship with my dad as a kid.', 'start': 759.083, 'duration': 2.261}, {'end': 769.47, 'text': 'And so, honestly, I tried to change my interests, or I tried to pick up his interests in high school to kind of impress him,', 'start': 762.665, 'duration': 6.805}], 'summary': 'Struggled to connect with disinterested father, adapted interests to impress him.', 'duration': 27.217, 'max_score': 742.253, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE742253.jpg'}], 'start': 446.459, 'title': 'Family challenges', 'summary': 'Delves into the struggles of lacking family support, expressing jealousy towards those who have it, and the impact of financial support on mental health and relationships, highlighting the emotional impact and desire for genuine connection.', 'chapters': [{'end': 538.921, 'start': 446.459, 'title': 'Struggle without support', 'summary': 'Discusses the challenges of lacking family support, expressing jealousy towards those who have it, and the motivation it provides to keep hustling, highlighting the absence of a safety net and the emotional impact of feeling unsupported.', 'duration': 92.462, 'highlights': ['The speaker expresses jealousy towards those with family support, highlighting the emotional impact of not having college paid for, family support at events, or a safety net to fall back on.', 'The absence of a safety net is emphasized, as the speaker describes having nowhere to go and nothing to fall back on if he loses his current living situation.', 'The impact of lacking family support is described as sad and depressing, but also motivational, as it keeps the speaker working and hustling.', "The speaker emphasizes the emotional toll of not having a functional family support system and urges those who do to appreciate and acknowledge their family's unconditional support."]}, {'end': 761.344, 'start': 539.864, 'title': 'Parental relationship struggles', 'summary': "Discusses the impact of financial support on the speaker's mental health and how it has affected their relationship with their parents, particularly their father, who is described as a skilled worker but a terrible father. the speaker expresses a desire for a genuine relationship with their parents but feels dismissed and unappreciated due to their differing interests.", 'duration': 221.48, 'highlights': ["The speaker's mental health has improved significantly since they stopped giving money to their parents, reflecting the impact of financial support on their well-being. The speaker mentions that not having to give money to their parents for a week has done wonders for their mental health.", 'The speaker expresses a desire for a genuine relationship with their parents but feels dismissed and unappreciated due to their differing interests, impacting their self-worth and relationship dynamics. The speaker reveals that their father expected them to have the same interests as him, leading to a sense of dismissal and being unappreciated for their own interests and personality.', "The speaker describes their father as a skilled worker but a terrible father, expressing the conflicting dynamics of admiration for his skills and disappointment in his parenting. The speaker acknowledges their father's skills and dedication as a worker but expresses disappointment in his role as a father, highlighting the conflicting feelings towards their father's abilities and parenting."]}], 'duration': 314.885, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE446459.jpg', 'highlights': ['The absence of a safety net is emphasized, as the speaker describes having nowhere to go and nothing to fall back on if he loses his current living situation.', "The speaker's mental health has improved significantly since they stopped giving money to their parents, reflecting the impact of financial support on their well-being.", 'The speaker expresses a desire for a genuine relationship with their parents but feels dismissed and unappreciated due to their differing interests, impacting their self-worth and relationship dynamics.', 'The impact of lacking family support is described as sad and depressing, but also motivational, as it keeps the speaker working and hustling.']}, {'end': 910.067, 'segs': [{'end': 800.555, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 780.2, 'weight': 0, 'content': [{'end': 790.768, 'text': 'but i know my dad played football in high school and so i signed up to play it and i did like three or four training sessions and i quit.', 'start': 780.2, 'duration': 10.568}, {'end': 793.75, 'text': 'and i remember like crying, like hysterically,', 'start': 790.768, 'duration': 2.982}, {'end': 800.555, 'text': "as like a 16 year old kid thinking my dad is going to be so disappointed in me because i just quit and i didn't like i'm not going to be on the football team now,", 'start': 793.75, 'duration': 6.805}], 'summary': "At 16, after 3-4 football training sessions, i quit, fearing my dad's disappointment.", 'duration': 20.355, 'max_score': 780.2, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE780200.jpg'}, {'end': 881.805, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 850.539, 'weight': 1, 'content': [{'end': 851.779, 'text': 'He was a good dude.', 'start': 850.539, 'duration': 1.24}, {'end': 860.383, 'text': 'The only time the relationship between me and my dad changed was when I was about 20 years old and I worked for him and his business.', 'start': 852.239, 'duration': 8.144}, {'end': 861.548, 'text': 'for a summer.', 'start': 861.007, 'duration': 0.541}, {'end': 864.27, 'text': 'It was the first time me and my dad ever got along.', 'start': 861.788, 'duration': 2.482}, {'end': 867.993, 'text': "You know, he was working a job that he didn't hate, and I was grown.", 'start': 864.87, 'duration': 3.123}, {'end': 874.038, 'text': "It had been a few years since we'd seen each other since I left to go live in Finland, and it was like we were both grown men.", 'start': 868.293, 'duration': 5.745}, {'end': 875.079, 'text': "We hadn't seen each other.", 'start': 874.218, 'duration': 0.861}, {'end': 881.805, 'text': 'We came back, and we were just kind of bouncing stuff off of each other, and he was laughing at my jokes for the first time in my life.', 'start': 875.199, 'duration': 6.606}], 'summary': 'Father-son relationship improved when working together in the family business at 20 years old.', 'duration': 31.266, 'max_score': 850.539, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE850539.jpg'}], 'start': 762.665, 'title': 'A turning point with father', 'summary': "Recounts a 16-year-old's attempt to impress his father by joining football, ultimately quitting and later bonding with his father at 20 while working together, marking a turning point in their relationship.", 'chapters': [{'end': 910.067, 'start': 762.665, 'title': 'Struggling relationship with dad', 'summary': "Recounts a 16-year-old's attempt to impress his father by joining football, ultimately quitting and later bonding with his father at 20 while working together, marking a turning point in their relationship.", 'duration': 147.402, 'highlights': ['The 16-year-old joined football to impress his dad, but quit after a few sessions, feeling no interest in the sport, leading to disappointment from his father. The 16-year-old signed up to play football to impress his dad, but after a few sessions, he quit, feeling no interest in the sport, which led to disappointment from his father.', "The 16-year-old's relationship with his dad was virtually non-existent, with the uncle being the only father figure, until they bonded when working together at 20 years old. The 16-year-old had a virtually non-existent relationship with his dad, with the uncle being the only father figure, until they bonded when working together at 20 years old, marking a turning point in their relationship.", "The 16-year-old's successful bonding with his dad occurred at 20 while working together, with both being grown men, leading to improved communication and understanding between them. The 16-year-old successfully bonded with his dad at 20 while working together, with both being grown men, leading to improved communication and understanding between them, marking a turning point in their relationship."]}], 'duration': 147.402, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE762665.jpg', 'highlights': ['The 16-year-old joined football to impress his dad, but quit after a few sessions, feeling no interest in the sport, leading to disappointment from his father.', "The 16-year-old's relationship with his dad was virtually non-existent, with the uncle being the only father figure, until they bonded when working together at 20 years old, marking a turning point in their relationship.", 'The 16-year-old successfully bonded with his dad at 20 while working together, with both being grown men, leading to improved communication and understanding between them, marking a turning point in their relationship.']}, {'end': 1217.349, 'segs': [{'end': 939.356, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 911.187, 'weight': 0, 'content': [{'end': 916.55, 'text': 'When that happened, when that relationship dynamic changed with my dad, I started thinking, you know what, maybe I could salvage this relationship.', 'start': 911.187, 'duration': 5.363}, {'end': 918.731, 'text': "You know, I've always wanted a relationship with him.", 'start': 916.57, 'duration': 2.161}, {'end': 920.451, 'text': "Maybe he's coming around and I can help him.", 'start': 918.771, 'duration': 1.68}, {'end': 925.013, 'text': "For my mom, I would say, I would say it's the opposite.", 'start': 920.871, 'duration': 4.142}, {'end': 929.555, 'text': 'As a mom, my mom was great.', 'start': 926.734, 'duration': 2.821}, {'end': 930.796, 'text': 'You know, she was pretty loving.', 'start': 929.675, 'duration': 1.121}, {'end': 934.312, 'text': 'She tried to help support me when I was sad,', 'start': 931.65, 'duration': 2.662}, {'end': 939.356, 'text': "when I didn't have friends at school and I didn't want to go to school because I didn't like any of my classmates or whatever.", 'start': 934.312, 'duration': 5.044}], 'summary': "Speaker's relationship with dad improved, mom was supportive during tough times.", 'duration': 28.169, 'max_score': 911.187, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE911187.jpg'}, {'end': 980.35, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 956.428, 'weight': 2, 'content': [{'end': 963.479, 'text': 'When I found out that money had been stolen from my credit card, I called her and I said do you know anything about this?', 'start': 956.428, 'duration': 7.051}, {'end': 965.582, 'text': "And she said I don't know anything about the money, Josh.", 'start': 963.659, 'duration': 1.923}, {'end': 966.123, 'text': 'Ask your dad.', 'start': 965.662, 'duration': 0.461}, {'end': 972.991, 'text': 'To which I said how do you think your bills are getting paid every month?. Like you owe a lawyer, you owe the company and you have to pay a mortgage.', 'start': 966.143, 'duration': 6.848}, {'end': 977.397, 'text': "How do you think, like you never once questioned how you're not homeless right now?", 'start': 973.031, 'duration': 4.366}, {'end': 980.35, 'text': "And she says I don't know, Josh, I've never messed with the money.", 'start': 978.129, 'duration': 2.221}], 'summary': 'After discovering stolen money, i confronted her about unpaid bills and financial responsibility.', 'duration': 23.922, 'max_score': 956.428, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE956428.jpg'}, {'end': 1034.097, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 1005.572, 'weight': 1, 'content': [{'end': 1009.553, 'text': "And honestly, I don't really think my mom has ever had to provide for herself fully.", 'start': 1005.572, 'duration': 3.981}, {'end': 1014.193, 'text': 'I think at one point she had an apartment and a job once like when she was young,', 'start': 1009.673, 'duration': 4.52}, {'end': 1019.734, 'text': "but I don't think there's ever been a real life scenario where she's ever had to kind of step up.", 'start': 1014.193, 'duration': 5.541}, {'end': 1020.475, 'text': "Here's the thing.", 'start': 1020.014, 'duration': 0.461}, {'end': 1027.596, 'text': 'Being able to see all this stuff from a distance has kind of just enabled me to accept them for who they are.', 'start': 1021.235, 'duration': 6.361}, {'end': 1034.097, 'text': 'When this first happened and when it was happening, I would absolutely hate them and resent them.', 'start': 1029.915, 'duration': 4.182}], 'summary': "Speaker reflects on mother's lack of self-sufficiency, fostering acceptance.", 'duration': 28.525, 'max_score': 1005.572, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE1005572.jpg'}, {'end': 1070.477, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 1045.127, 'weight': 3, 'content': [{'end': 1054.29, 'text': "they're my biological parents and i wish them well, but we just aren't compatible as a family and it will never be family first.", 'start': 1045.127, 'duration': 9.163}, {'end': 1057.571, 'text': "as far as i'm concerned, i'm an orphan.", 'start': 1054.29, 'duration': 3.281}, {'end': 1066.796, 'text': "i've gone through a few mental exercises to kind of prepare for the worst, such as what if no one in my family Never talks to me again?", 'start': 1057.571, 'duration': 9.225}, {'end': 1068.917, 'text': 'What would that actually be like?', 'start': 1067.717, 'duration': 1.2}, {'end': 1070.477, 'text': "when I'm old and everyone dies off?", 'start': 1068.917, 'duration': 1.56}], 'summary': 'Strained relationship with biological parents, preparing for potential estrangement and feeling like an orphan.', 'duration': 25.35, 'max_score': 1045.127, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE1045127.jpg'}, {'end': 1140.646, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 1112.992, 'weight': 4, 'content': [{'end': 1116.414, 'text': 'And those are the thoughts that you have to prepare yourself for when you fully cut off your family.', 'start': 1112.992, 'duration': 3.422}, {'end': 1119.535, 'text': 'Everyone in my family is blocked on my phone.', 'start': 1116.774, 'duration': 2.761}, {'end': 1126.481, 'text': 'Everyone in my family is blocked to try and call me, but my family knows where I live.', 'start': 1120.276, 'duration': 6.205}, {'end': 1128.422, 'text': 'My family has my email.', 'start': 1126.941, 'duration': 1.481}, {'end': 1132.163, 'text': 'If they really wanted to talk to me and reach out to me, they could.', 'start': 1129.042, 'duration': 3.121}, {'end': 1139.066, 'text': "Honestly, I don't expect anyone to actually make the effort to reach out to me out of love, especially because I put this on YouTube.", 'start': 1132.443, 'duration': 6.623}, {'end': 1140.646, 'text': "They've probably.", 'start': 1139.846, 'duration': 0.8}], 'summary': 'Individual has cut off family, blocked them on phone, and doubts their love.', 'duration': 27.654, 'max_score': 1112.992, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE1112992.jpg'}, {'end': 1217.349, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 1194.477, 'weight': 5, 'content': [{'end': 1197.158, 'text': "I want to go see him, but I know that would not be, that's not good.", 'start': 1194.477, 'duration': 2.681}, {'end': 1199.059, 'text': 'And it was like that the first few days.', 'start': 1197.738, 'duration': 1.321}, {'end': 1201.44, 'text': "And then after that, I'm fine.", 'start': 1199.099, 'duration': 2.341}, {'end': 1206.242, 'text': "If you are going through something similar, I'd like to offer you my ear to listen.", 'start': 1201.86, 'duration': 4.382}, {'end': 1210.239, 'text': "It's the least I can do for everything that you guys have done for me.", 'start': 1207.816, 'duration': 2.423}, {'end': 1212.683, 'text': "Anyways, that's where I'm at over the past week.", 'start': 1210.72, 'duration': 1.963}, {'end': 1213.964, 'text': 'Thanks for listening.', 'start': 1213.263, 'duration': 0.701}, {'end': 1215.006, 'text': 'Thanks for being here.', 'start': 1214.345, 'duration': 0.661}, {'end': 1215.887, 'text': 'Thanks for the support.', 'start': 1215.026, 'duration': 0.861}, {'end': 1217.349, 'text': "I'll see you guys in the next one.", 'start': 1216.488, 'duration': 0.861}], 'summary': 'Struggling at first, but fine now. offering support to others. grateful for the support received.', 'duration': 22.872, 'max_score': 1194.477, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE1194477.jpg'}], 'start': 911.187, 'title': 'Family dynamics and acceptance', 'summary': "Explores the evolving relationship dynamics with the speaker's parents, contrasting perspectives on salvaging the relationship with the father and mother. it also delves into the discovery of financial dishonesty, leading to a decision to cut off contact and finding peace in acceptance with support from others.", 'chapters': [{'end': 955.608, 'start': 911.187, 'title': 'Changing relationship dynamics', 'summary': "Discusses the changing relationship dynamics with the speaker's parents, highlighting the evolving perspective towards salvaging the relationship with the father and the contrasting perceptions of the mother's role as a mom and as a person.", 'duration': 44.421, 'highlights': ["The speaker's evolving perspective on salvaging the relationship with the father after a change in dynamics.", 'The contrasting roles of the mother, being supportive as a mom but lacking responsibility as a person.']}, {'end': 1217.349, 'start': 956.428, 'title': 'Family struggles and acceptance', 'summary': "Discusses the speaker's discovery of financial dishonesty within their family, leading to a realization of their parents' irresponsibility and a decision to cut off contact, ultimately finding peace in acceptance and seeking support from others.", 'duration': 260.921, 'highlights': ["The speaker confronts their mother about stolen money from their credit card, highlighting the mother's lack of responsibility and denial of involvement, leading the speaker to question her financial awareness and ability to provide for herself. stolen money from the credit card, 30 years of marriage", "The speaker reflects on their parents' lack of accountability and self-sufficiency, concluding that they are not suitable as a family, and adopts a sense of detachment and orphanhood, preparing for the worst-case scenario of being cut off from the family. lack of accountability, detachment and orphanhood", "The speaker discusses the emotional turmoil of cutting off ties with their family, contemplating the potential consequences and acknowledging the lack of effort expected from their family to reach out due to the speaker's actions and beliefs. cutting off ties, lack of expected effort from family", 'The speaker expresses gratitude for the support received from others and offers to lend an ear to those undergoing similar experiences, ultimately finding peace and acceptance after the initial emotional upheaval. gratitude for support, offering a listening ear']}], 'duration': 306.162, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/CtbVcTFQFYE/pics/CtbVcTFQFYE911187.jpg', 'highlights': ["The speaker's evolving perspective on salvaging the relationship with the father after a change in dynamics.", 'The contrasting roles of the mother, being supportive as a mom but lacking responsibility as a person.', "The speaker confronts their mother about stolen money from their credit card, highlighting the mother's lack of responsibility and denial of involvement, leading the speaker to question her financial awareness and ability to provide for herself.", "The speaker reflects on their parents' lack of accountability and self-sufficiency, concluding that they are not suitable as a family, and adopts a sense of detachment and orphanhood, preparing for the worst-case scenario of being cut off from the family.", "The speaker discusses the emotional turmoil of cutting off ties with their family, contemplating the potential consequences and acknowledging the lack of effort expected from their family to reach out due to the speaker's actions and beliefs.", 'The speaker expresses gratitude for the support received from others and offers to lend an ear to those undergoing similar experiences, ultimately finding peace and acceptance after the initial emotional upheaval.']}], 'highlights': ['The speaker expresses a desire for a genuine relationship with their parents but feels dismissed and unappreciated due to their differing interests, impacting their self-worth and relationship dynamics.', "The speaker's mental health has improved significantly since they stopped giving money to their parents, reflecting the impact of financial support on their well-being.", "The speaker confronts their mother about stolen money from their credit card, highlighting the mother's lack of responsibility and denial of involvement, leading the speaker to question her financial awareness and ability to provide for herself.", 'The speaker received support from a stranger on Facebook who empathized with their situation and offered help, demonstrating the impact of sharing their story and reaching out for support.', 'The 16-year-old joined football to impress his dad, but quit after a few sessions, feeling no interest in the sport, leading to disappointment from his father.']}