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my family disowned me yesterday.. ( showing the text messages ) | #grindreel #gaslighting

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( showing the text messages ) | #grindreel #gaslighting', 'heatmap': [{'end': 1430.155, 'start': 1403.01, 'weight': 0.702}, {'end': 1944.342, 'start': 1918.544, 'weight': 0.714}, {'end': 2414.957, 'start': 2386.647, 'weight': 1}], 'summary': "Discusses familial financial struggles, emotional manipulation, and strained relationships, detailing the speaker's challenges in providing financial support for the family, leading to a decision to cut off toxic relationships after facing resistance and deceit despite substantial financial assistance.", 'chapters': [{'end': 458.351, 'segs': [{'end': 132.505, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 47.536, 'weight': 0, 'content': [{'end': 59.39, 'text': 'Basically, I told my dad that I was going to pay his rent one more time for the month of May, April 28th of last month.', 'start': 47.536, 'duration': 11.854}, {'end': 63.713, 'text': 'I would pay his rent for the final time, and you would be on your own.', 'start': 59.83, 'duration': 3.883}, {'end': 72.534, 'text': "Now, if you don't know the history, I can just give you a brief synopsis, but I have videos covering this, but my Dad lost his job, lost his house.", 'start': 64.153, 'duration': 8.381}, {'end': 75.055, 'text': 'I gave them all of my savings to move to Utah.', 'start': 72.834, 'duration': 2.221}, {'end': 79.236, 'text': 'They were supposed to start a new life and that just never happened.', 'start': 75.575, 'duration': 3.661}, {'end': 90.678, 'text': "and then slowly my family kind of fell apart, and now my grandparents are blaming me for it, and I'm the bad person in all of this,", 'start': 79.236, 'duration': 11.442}, {'end': 99.657, 'text': "because I don't want to be a cash cow and It's destroying my relationship with my dad, with my family.", 'start': 90.678, 'duration': 8.979}, {'end': 105.564, 'text': "and now, since they've basically cut me off, let's talk about it.", 'start': 99.657, 'duration': 5.907}, {'end': 114.936, 'text': 'So about a month ago, I said I was feeling burnt out for being the provider of my fully capable parents, and I was tired of paying their rent.', 'start': 106.065, 'duration': 8.871}, {'end': 119.003, 'text': 'I was mentally burned out, like mentally dead.', 'start': 115.842, 'duration': 3.161}, {'end': 121.343, 'text': "I'm not working for myself anymore.", 'start': 119.243, 'duration': 2.1}, {'end': 126.824, 'text': "I'm just waking up every day and working so that I can pay my rent and their rent.", 'start': 121.523, 'duration': 5.301}, {'end': 131.805, 'text': "And I like to help people that, you know, they can't help themselves.", 'start': 127.744, 'duration': 4.061}, {'end': 132.505, 'text': "Yeah, I'm okay.", 'start': 131.825, 'duration': 0.68}], 'summary': 'Struggling with financial burden, provided for family, feeling burnt out.', 'duration': 84.969, 'max_score': 47.536, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc47536.jpg'}, {'end': 293.89, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 270.974, 'weight': 3, 'content': [{'end': 278.439, 'text': "I am mentally drained and mentally hurting and emotionally hurting, and I can't deal with this anymore.", 'start': 270.974, 'duration': 7.465}, {'end': 279.04, 'text': 'I have to cut you off.', 'start': 278.459, 'duration': 0.581}, {'end': 283.283, 'text': "So I said, look man, so Friday's the last time I'm going to pay your rent.", 'start': 279.4, 'duration': 3.883}, {'end': 285.964, 'text': "I'm going to go crazy having to support both of us.", 'start': 284.263, 'duration': 1.701}, {'end': 286.785, 'text': "I can't do it anymore.", 'start': 286.004, 'duration': 0.781}, {'end': 288.606, 'text': 'So there are a couple options.', 'start': 287.285, 'duration': 1.321}, {'end': 293.89, 'text': 'You can go with me to the DMV and get a Utah license to Uber and pay your rent, the car and the insurance,', 'start': 289.407, 'duration': 4.483}], 'summary': 'Struggling to support and emotionally drained, ending financial assistance.', 'duration': 22.916, 'max_score': 270.974, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc270974.jpg'}, {'end': 387.781, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 360.936, 'weight': 4, 'content': [{'end': 365.999, 'text': "You told me you were coming over to help me and you ghosted me for five days, and it's back to the same thing before.", 'start': 360.936, 'duration': 5.063}, {'end': 367.94, 'text': 'you had all these health issues before you got sick.', 'start': 365.999, 'duration': 1.941}, {'end': 371.622, 'text': "It's back to you saying, I'll be over there, I'll be over there, I'll be over there, and then you just never come over.", 'start': 368.34, 'duration': 3.282}, {'end': 376.865, 'text': "He says, looks like you had company today anyhow, and you don't call, you just text me bombshells and that's all.", 'start': 371.902, 'duration': 4.963}, {'end': 379.315, 'text': 'just trying to sort out my thoughts and whatnot.', 'start': 377.233, 'duration': 2.082}, {'end': 380.896, 'text': "Could be dead, but you wouldn't know.", 'start': 379.575, 'duration': 1.321}, {'end': 385.859, 'text': 'He does this a lot, where he says you know I would have been dead and nobody would have known,', 'start': 381.056, 'duration': 4.803}, {'end': 387.781, 'text': 'or you know something could have happened and nobody would have known.', 'start': 385.859, 'duration': 1.922}], 'summary': 'Feeling abandoned after being ghosted for 5 days, with concerns about health and lack of communication.', 'duration': 26.845, 'max_score': 360.936, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc360936.jpg'}], 'start': 0.109, 'title': 'Familial financial struggles', 'summary': "Describes the speaker's struggle with providing financial support for their family, leading to resentment and strained relationships, culminating in the decision to stop paying rent for their parents and being blamed for the family's issues, detailing a struggle with financial support, including paying rent and car expenses, leading to a decision to cut off support due to mental and emotional strain, with a final ultimatum given to the individual, and highlighting the challenges of supporting a loved one, as a daughter expresses her frustration in trying to help her father who is not reciprocating, despite her efforts in paying his bills and helping him get jobs.", 'chapters': [{'end': 227.817, 'start': 0.109, 'title': 'Struggles with supporting family', 'summary': "Describes the speaker's struggle with providing financial support for their family, leading to resentment and strained relationships, culminating in the decision to stop paying rent for their parents and being blamed for the family's issues.", 'duration': 227.708, 'highlights': ["The speaker has been financially supporting their parents for five to six years, giving them all their savings to move to Utah and working 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just pulling my emotional strings as his son.", 'start': 549.268, 'duration': 2.662}, {'end': 555.253, 'text': 'so that he can get what he wants.', 'start': 552.671, 'duration': 2.582}, {'end': 556.615, 'text': 'And he does this every time.', 'start': 555.434, 'duration': 1.181}, {'end': 559.958, 'text': "This isn't, like I said, this isn't the first time or the second time or the third time.", 'start': 556.675, 'duration': 3.283}, {'end': 562.86, 'text': "This is probably maybe the 15th time that I've had to deal with this.", 'start': 559.978, 'duration': 2.882}, {'end': 565.183, 'text': 'And every time it promises change, you know.', 'start': 563.481, 'duration': 1.702}, {'end': 567.505, 'text': 'And at some point you just got to put your foot down.', 'start': 565.923, 'duration': 1.582}, {'end': 571.548, 'text': 'And I was afraid to do it for so long because of this.', 'start': 567.625, 'duration': 3.923}, {'end': 572.93, 'text': "Because I'm having to deal with this.", 'start': 571.789, 'duration': 1.141}, {'end': 576.873, 'text': "I'm having to deal with my family, shaming me and treating me like I'm a piece of garbage,", 'start': 572.99, 'duration': 3.883}], 'summary': 'Repeated emotional manipulation, about 15 instances, prompting a need for change and resistance.', 'duration': 27.605, 'max_score': 549.268, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc549268.jpg'}, {'end': 606.68, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 584.424, 'weight': 1, 'content': [{'end': 592.371, 'text': 'doing something bad to himself and knowing that maybe I could have prevented that had I paid his rent, is something that I struggle with,', 'start': 584.424, 'duration': 7.947}, {'end': 597.536, 'text': "but at some point it's not helping, it's enabling, and that is where I'm at.", 'start': 592.371, 'duration': 5.165}, {'end': 602.38, 'text': "I said, you're really hurting our relationship by treating me like an ATM.", 'start': 597.996, 'duration': 4.384}, {'end': 606.68, 'text': 'You only talk to me, you only pretend to be my friend, to ask me for money.', 'start': 602.42, 'duration': 4.26}], 'summary': 'Struggling with enabling behavior, relationship hurt by financial requests.', 'duration': 22.256, 'max_score': 584.424, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc584424.jpg'}, {'end': 687.061, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 654.016, 'weight': 2, 'content': [{'end': 658.578, 'text': "Also, can I get my allowance and my phone bill? And I'd like to get a burger, you know, like I said, I gave you $1,460.", 'start': 654.016, 'duration': 4.562}, {'end': 661.1, 'text': "That's enough for rent, phone and food.", 'start': 658.579, 'duration': 2.521}, {'end': 663.882, 'text': 'Do not ask me for another dollar ever again.', 'start': 661.3, 'duration': 2.582}, {'end': 665.474, 'text': "You're welcome.", 'start': 664.994, 'duration': 0.48}, {'end': 666.675, 'text': 'He said, I appreciate it.', 'start': 665.814, 'duration': 0.861}, {'end': 669.515, 'text': 'I hope I can find and get hired in a real short time at this point.', 'start': 667.115, 'duration': 2.4}, {'end': 671.536, 'text': "I haven't been asking for anything extra lately.", 'start': 669.535, 'duration': 2.001}, {'end': 673.097, 'text': 'So that was his thing.', 'start': 671.716, 'duration': 1.381}, {'end': 677.798, 'text': 'When I was paying his rent and stuff before and giving him money, he would ask for extra money.', 'start': 673.777, 'duration': 4.021}, {'end': 687.061, 'text': "And so now the benefit is like, oh, well, I'm still taking your money for not doing anything, but I've been asking for extra, right? So that's good.", 'start': 679.239, 'duration': 7.822}], 'summary': 'Recipient is given $1,460 for rent, phone, and food, with a request to not ask for more money.', 'duration': 33.045, 'max_score': 654.016, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc654016.jpg'}, {'end': 719.647, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 690.333, 'weight': 7, 'content': [{'end': 695.599, 'text': "He said, been making do with what's received, but why sound so gruff about it? Doesn't make things better or easier.", 'start': 690.333, 'duration': 5.266}, {'end': 700.546, 'text': "I don't see a whole lot of gruffness in here, but like, I said because I'm hurt.", 'start': 696.24, 'duration': 4.306}, {'end': 701.847, 'text': "I'm really hurt.", 'start': 701.327, 'duration': 0.52}, {'end': 704.07, 'text': 'I feel like no parent should treat their kids this way.', 'start': 701.907, 'duration': 2.163}, {'end': 704.711, 'text': 'And like, I..', 'start': 704.35, 'duration': 0.361}, {'end': 708.663, 'text': 'So that Friday came along.', 'start': 707.543, 'duration': 1.12}, {'end': 712.524, 'text': 'He came over and conveniently forgot all of his paperwork to go get a Utah license.', 'start': 709.023, 'duration': 3.501}, {'end': 719.647, 'text': 'And I just sat in the car with him and just signed him up for a bunch of delivery apps like DoorDash and GrubHub and Uber Eats and anything like that that I could think of.', 'start': 713.005, 'duration': 6.642}], 'summary': 'A hurt individual signs up parent for delivery apps after feeling mistreated.', 'duration': 29.314, 'max_score': 690.333, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc690333.jpg'}, {'end': 771.741, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 746.663, 'weight': 4, 'content': [{'end': 752.525, 'text': 'I traded my Jeep in and rolled negative equity over so that I could DoorDash if I ever needed a side hustle and got a smaller car, but..', 'start': 746.663, 'duration': 5.862}, {'end': 756.232, 'text': "And it's $150 a month for insurance.", 'start': 753.971, 'duration': 2.261}, {'end': 765.698, 'text': "And I've been doing that on top of paying him $120 a week, his phone bill for $50, his blood pressure for $50, and paying his rent.", 'start': 756.573, 'duration': 9.125}, {'end': 768.619, 'text': "That's $1,300 every month.", 'start': 765.738, 'duration': 2.881}, {'end': 770.18, 'text': 'And his medical bills.', 'start': 769.24, 'duration': 0.94}, {'end': 771.741, 'text': 'With nothing in return.', 'start': 770.861, 'duration': 0.88}], 'summary': 'Traded jeep, incurred $1300 monthly expenses, no return', 'duration': 25.078, 'max_score': 746.663, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc746663.jpg'}, {'end': 961.14, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 932.09, 'weight': 3, 'content': [{'end': 933.05, 'text': "Alright, now she's on the run.", 'start': 932.09, 'duration': 0.96}, {'end': 939.192, 'text': 'I have been there to bail my family out of every situation over the past five years.', 'start': 933.45, 'duration': 5.742}, {'end': 947.695, 'text': 'In spite of them screwing me over, ruining my credit, running up my credit cards, all of this stuff.', 'start': 941.953, 'duration': 5.742}, {'end': 953.037, 'text': 'In spite of all of that, I still bailed them out because I wanted them to have a successful life.', 'start': 947.775, 'duration': 5.262}, {'end': 958.799, 'text': "In the name of doing what's right, in the name of doing what's honorable, in the name of never wanting someone else to be homeless,", 'start': 953.577, 'duration': 5.222}, {'end': 961.14, 'text': 'because that is something I would never wish on anyone.', 'start': 958.799, 'duration': 2.341}], 'summary': 'Bailed family out of financial trouble for 5 years despite being mistreated.', 'duration': 29.05, 'max_score': 932.09, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc932090.jpg'}], 'start': 458.371, 'title': 'Family financial struggle', 'summary': "Reveals a son's frustration with his father's financial dependency and emotional manipulation, leading to a strained relationship, as the son struggles with the ethical dilemma of enabling his father's behavior while trying to provide for the family's needs. it also highlights the speaker's struggle to financially support their family, including paying for various expenses and bailing 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requests for money, rent, phone bill, and even a burger, showcasing a pattern of dependency and entitlement despite claiming to make do with what he receives.', "The son grapples with the ethical dilemma of enabling his father's behavior while feeling hurt and conflicted about the impact on their relationship and the family's well-being."]}, {'end': 992.025, 'start': 709.023, 'title': 'Struggling to support family', 'summary': "Highlights the speaker's struggle to financially support their family, including paying for various expenses and bailing family members out of legal and financial troubles, despite being deceived and financially ruined by them.", 'duration': 283.002, 'highlights': ['The speaker financially supports their family, paying for various expenses including car, insurance, phone bill, and rent, totaling $1,300 every month, with no return.', 'The speaker has bailed their family out of multiple legal and financial troubles over the past five years, despite being deceived and financially ruined by them.', 'The speaker recounts instances of being deceived and financially ruined by their family, including credit card misuse, loan taken out in their name, and ruined apartment, leading to financial burden and ruined credit.', 'The speaker expresses the struggle of being there for their family through tough situations, including job loss, creating their own business, and bailing family members out of legal troubles, despite being financially deceived and ruined by them.', 'The speaker emphasizes the desire to help their family have a successful life, despite being deceived and financially ruined by them, and expresses the impact of their actions on their financial future and credit.']}], 'duration': 533.654, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc458371.jpg', 'highlights': ["The son grapples with the ethical dilemma of enabling his father's behavior while feeling hurt and conflicted about the 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years, despite being deceived and financially ruined by them.', 'The speaker expresses the struggle of being there for their family through tough situations, including job loss, creating their own business, and bailing family members out of legal troubles, despite being financially deceived and ruined by them.', "The son expresses frustration at his father's lack of commitment to work, citing instances where the father makes excuses for not helping with car repairs and avoids seeking therapy for his issues."]}, {'end': 1426.992, 'segs': [{'end': 1027.308, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 992.469, 'weight': 0, 'content': [{'end': 993.676, 'text': "They didn't ask for assistance.", 'start': 992.469, 'duration': 1.207}, {'end': 994.782, 'text': 'They maxed out my credit cards.', 'start': 993.696, 'duration': 1.086}, {'end': 998.492, 'text': 'have screwed me over left and right.', 'start': 996.55, 'duration': 1.942}, {'end': 1001.694, 'text': "And I've been there for them when no one else was in the family.", 'start': 998.592, 'duration': 3.102}, {'end': 1003.395, 'text': "And maybe there's a reason for that now.", 'start': 1002.034, 'duration': 1.361}, {'end': 1004.176, 'text': 'And now I know why.', 'start': 1003.435, 'duration': 0.741}, {'end': 1006.138, 'text': "So it's been very one-sided.", 'start': 1004.917, 'duration': 1.221}, {'end': 1009.6, 'text': "And so I feel like I've put in my time.", 'start': 1006.978, 'duration': 2.622}, {'end': 1010.641, 'text': "I've put in my dues.", 'start': 1009.64, 'duration': 1.001}, {'end': 1012.342, 'text': "I'm not helping them anymore.", 'start': 1011.141, 'duration': 1.201}, {'end': 1013.263, 'text': "I'm just enabling them.", 'start': 1012.362, 'duration': 0.901}, {'end': 1021.169, 'text': "And I have to stop because at what point do I get to live my life? For me, I'm going to be 30 years old.", 'start': 1014.204, 'duration': 6.965}, {'end': 1027.308, 'text': "This isn't a shill, but if you haven't been following me on Instagram, I've been posting stories of me going paragliding.", 'start': 1021.49, 'duration': 5.818}], 'summary': 'Feeling taken advantage of, refusing to enable family, prioritizing own life at 30.', 'duration': 34.839, 'max_score': 992.469, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc992469.jpg'}, {'end': 1087.491, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 1056.212, 'weight': 1, 'content': [{'end': 1059.312, 'text': "I'm gonna use this money that I would use to pay your rent and I'm gonna do something for me.", 'start': 1056.212, 'duration': 3.1}, {'end': 1061.733, 'text': "I'm gonna live my life for once.", 'start': 1059.312, 'duration': 2.421}, {'end': 1064.094, 'text': "I'm gonna think about what Josh wants today.", 'start': 1061.733, 'duration': 2.361}, {'end': 1071.124, 'text': "I'm gonna think about what are my dreams and what are my goals, and so I took myself to learn paragliding.", 'start': 1064.094, 'duration': 7.03}, {'end': 1076.212, 'text': "For two weeks, after I set my dad up with DoorDash, he didn't talk to me.", 'start': 1071.364, 'duration': 4.848}, {'end': 1080.5, 'text': "I mean, I gave him 120 bucks, and I set him up with DoorDash, and he just didn't talk to me for two weeks.", 'start': 1076.292, 'duration': 4.208}, {'end': 1082.042, 'text': 'And those two weeks were so peaceful.', 'start': 1080.56, 'duration': 1.482}, {'end': 1087.491, 'text': 'and so different that I woke up every day and I was kind of doing what I wanted to do.', 'start': 1083.208, 'duration': 4.283}], 'summary': 'Used rent money to pursue paragliding, brought peace and freedom.', 'duration': 31.279, 'max_score': 1056.212, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc1056212.jpg'}, {'end': 1260.36, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 1232.08, 'weight': 2, 'content': [{'end': 1234.962, 'text': "And then everyone in the parking lot is like looking at me, right? And it's creating a big scene.", 'start': 1232.08, 'duration': 2.882}, {'end': 1240.828, 'text': "And in that moment of weakness, you would say for me, I was like, you know what, dad? Fine, I'll just give you the money.", 'start': 1234.982, 'duration': 5.846}, {'end': 1243.27, 'text': 'Can you just leave? I really need to focus on being able to fly an airplane.', 'start': 1240.848, 'duration': 2.422}, {'end': 1245.533, 'text': "You don't want to fly an airplane when you're emotionally distraught.", 'start': 1243.511, 'duration': 2.022}, {'end': 1250.315, 'text': "you don't you want to focus, especially when you're learning all the dials and the buttons and the airplane.", 'start': 1246.413, 'duration': 3.902}, {'end': 1254.457, 'text': "you don't want to crash an airplane you know, like it was just much easier to be like.", 'start': 1250.315, 'duration': 4.142}, {'end': 1254.797, 'text': 'you know what.', 'start': 1254.457, 'duration': 0.34}, {'end': 1256.638, 'text': "okay, fine, and that's what he does.", 'start': 1254.797, 'duration': 1.841}, {'end': 1260.36, 'text': 'he goes to you in person and makes it really difficult for you to say no.', 'start': 1256.638, 'duration': 3.722}], 'summary': 'Struggling with emotional pressure, agreed to give money to dad, affecting ability to learn to fly an airplane.', 'duration': 28.28, 'max_score': 1232.08, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc1232080.jpg'}, {'end': 1298.351, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 1260.36, 'weight': 3, 'content': [{'end': 1266.443, 'text': "and because he knows he's my dad, i'll probably do it, but this time i'm not doing it, and so i'm getting shamed for it.", 'start': 1260.36, 'duration': 6.083}, {'end': 1272.511, 'text': 'and so, after he asked me for $50 at the end of the paragliding lessons.', 'start': 1266.443, 'duration': 6.068}, {'end': 1278.102, 'text': "I knew that, like, if you're asking me for money, that means you stopped working your own job at some point.", 'start': 1274.034, 'duration': 4.068}, {'end': 1281.268, 'text': "You just said, fuck this, I'm not making enough money with DoorDash or whatever.", 'start': 1278.122, 'duration': 3.146}, {'end': 1286.104, 'text': "I'm just going to go ask my son for money, because it's a lot easier that way, you know,", 'start': 1281.841, 'duration': 4.263}, {'end': 1288.945, 'text': 'because he could have made $50 that same day if he had just DoorDashed it.', 'start': 1286.104, 'duration': 2.841}, {'end': 1290.607, 'text': "He didn't need to be there, you know.", 'start': 1288.965, 'duration': 1.642}, {'end': 1295.049, 'text': "And then when he's like, well, you can't make a living doing DoorDash, Josh.", 'start': 1290.667, 'duration': 4.382}, {'end': 1298.351, 'text': "It's just not, you know, it's like three bucks here or there, you know.", 'start': 1295.169, 'duration': 3.182}], 'summary': "Son refuses to give dad money for paragliding, questions dad's work ethic and doordash income.", 'duration': 37.991, 'max_score': 1260.36, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc1260360.jpg'}, {'end': 1360.423, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 1335.671, 'weight': 4, 'content': [{'end': 1341.033, 'text': "Right, dad? And I'm just like, okay, because I told you I'm not going to pay your rent.", 'start': 1335.671, 'duration': 5.362}, {'end': 1342.474, 'text': "I'm not going to do it.", 'start': 1341.834, 'duration': 0.64}, {'end': 1343.735, 'text': 'You had an entire month.', 'start': 1342.494, 'duration': 1.241}, {'end': 1346.316, 'text': 'You could have told me that you had trouble looking for jobs.', 'start': 1344.115, 'duration': 2.201}, {'end': 1347.557, 'text': 'You could have told me that you had trouble.', 'start': 1346.336, 'duration': 1.221}, {'end': 1352.199, 'text': "He's like, well, you know, the thing that's going around is making it really difficult to get interviews and find a job.", 'start': 1347.577, 'duration': 4.622}, {'end': 1354.76, 'text': "And I'm just like, you didn't message me at all for two weeks.", 'start': 1352.259, 'duration': 2.501}, {'end': 1359.422, 'text': "I thought you were doing fantastic and you were just living your best life and you didn't need money from me anymore.", 'start': 1355.18, 'duration': 4.242}, {'end': 1360.423, 'text': "And that's why you didn't talk to me.", 'start': 1359.462, 'duration': 0.961}], 'summary': "Son refuses to pay rent as father didn't communicate job troubles for two weeks.", 'duration': 24.752, 'max_score': 1335.671, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc1335671.jpg'}], 'start': 992.469, 'title': 'Struggle with family and pursuing dreams', 'summary': "Details the speaker's struggle with enabling family members, their pursuit of paragliding, and the emotional manipulation by the father, impacting personal goals, including instances of financial support and emotional manipulation. it also reveals a son's frustration with his dad's financial dependence, as the dad asks for $50 and fails to secure a job, despite claiming to have an interview, highlighting the father's reliance on the son and lack of effort in finding employment.", 'chapters': [{'end': 1260.36, 'start': 992.469, 'title': 'Struggle with family and pursuing dreams', 'summary': "Details the speaker's struggle with enabling family members, their pursuit of paragliding, and the emotional manipulation by the father, impacting the pursuit of personal goals, including instances of financial support and emotional manipulation.", 'duration': 267.891, 'highlights': ['The speaker expresses frustration with enabling family members, stating that they have maxed out their credit cards and have been left feeling one-sided in the relationship. maxed out credit cards, feeling one-sided', 'The speaker discusses their pursuit of paragliding, a dream they had put on hold for over eight years, and their decision to prioritize personal goals and dreams over financial support for family members. putting paragliding dream on hold for over eight years', 'The speaker describes instances where the father emotionally manipulates them for money, impacting their pursuit of personal goals and causing emotional distress, even during important activities such as airplane lessons. emotional manipulation by father for money, impact on airplane lessons']}, {'end': 1426.992, 'start': 1260.36, 'title': "Dad's financial dependence", 'summary': "Reveals a son's frustration with his dad's financial dependence, as the dad asks for $50 and fails to secure a job, despite claiming to have an interview, highlighting the father's reliance on the son and lack of effort in finding employment.", 'duration': 166.632, 'highlights': ["The father asks the son for $50, indicating financial dependence and a lack of income, reflecting the father's reliance on the son for money instead of working.", 'The father claims to have an interview but fails to secure a job, showcasing his lack of effort in finding employment and his reliance on the son for financial support.', "The son expresses frustration and exhaustion from paragliding, yet still provides the father with $50, highlighting the son's willingness to support his father despite his frustration.", "The son questions the father's lack of initiative in finding a job and financial independence, reflecting the son's growing frustration and disappointment with the father's behavior."]}], 'duration': 434.523, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc992469.jpg', 'highlights': ['The speaker expresses frustration with enabling family members, stating that they have maxed out their credit cards and have been left feeling one-sided in the relationship.', 'The speaker discusses their pursuit of paragliding, a dream they had put on hold for over eight years, and their decision to prioritize personal goals and dreams over financial support for family members.', 'The speaker describes instances where the father emotionally manipulates them for money, impacting their pursuit of personal goals and causing emotional distress, even during important activities such as airplane lessons.', "The father asks the son for $50, indicating financial dependence and a lack of income, reflecting the father's reliance on the son for money instead of working.", 'The father claims to have an interview but fails to secure a job, showcasing his lack of effort in finding employment and his reliance on the son for financial support.', "The son expresses frustration and exhaustion from paragliding, yet still provides the father with $50, highlighting the son's willingness to support his father despite his frustration.", "The son questions the father's lack of initiative in finding a job and financial independence, reflecting the son's growing frustration and disappointment with the father's behavior."]}, {'end': 1667.384, 'segs': [{'end': 1505.692, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 1460.778, 'weight': 0, 'content': [{'end': 1471.69, 'text': "And that's when I let my grandparents know and my mom, who never responds to me, know that I'm not going to pay his rent this month.", 'start': 1460.778, 'duration': 10.912}, {'end': 1476.753, 'text': "I'm not just going to roll over and be the cash cow they expect me to be.", 'start': 1473.051, 'duration': 3.702}, {'end': 1486.479, 'text': 'And they are so conditioned to me just rolling over and paying for my dad that they just expect me to.', 'start': 1478.134, 'duration': 8.345}, {'end': 1490.642, 'text': "And they didn't believe me when I said, hey, I'm not going to pay rent.", 'start': 1486.799, 'duration': 3.843}, {'end': 1498.123, 'text': "What I'm about to show you are text messages from my grandparents And none of them have ever talked to me like this before.", 'start': 1491.002, 'duration': 7.121}, {'end': 1502.749, 'text': 'And I want you to keep in mind that these people claim to be devout Christians.', 'start': 1499.225, 'duration': 3.524}, {'end': 1505.692, 'text': "And now again I don't really talk about religion on the channel,", 'start': 1502.969, 'duration': 2.723}], 'summary': "Refusing to pay dad's 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1593.752, 'duration': 0.76}, {'end': 1595.894, 'text': "And then he says, you're dead to me.", 'start': 1594.853, 'duration': 1.041}, {'end': 1598.576, 'text': "He says, you're dead to me.", 'start': 1597.014, 'duration': 1.562}, {'end': 1600.077, 'text': "Don't call or communicate with me again.", 'start': 1598.836, 'duration': 1.241}, {'end': 1601.778, 'text': "My grandfather, my dad's dead.", 'start': 1600.117, 'duration': 1.661}, {'end': 1603.76, 'text': 'And to be honest, I was pretty taken back.', 'start': 1602.039, 'duration': 1.721}, {'end': 1606.743, 'text': "I don't feel like that is what a devout Christian person would do.", 'start': 1604.02, 'duration': 2.723}, {'end': 1611.189, 'text': 'So I sent him a thumbs up because I was pretty shocked.', 'start': 1609.468, 'duration': 1.721}], 'summary': 'Family members lying for money, causing conflict and estrangement, leading to a shocking response from a devout christian.', 'duration': 31.097, 'max_score': 1580.092, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc1580092.jpg'}, {'end': 1645.693, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 1618.635, 'weight': 1, 'content': [{'end': 1630.665, 'text': "He's a 77 year old man talking to me like he's an angry 17 year old lashing out at his family because I said, I'm I can't pay my dad's rent.", 'start': 1618.635, 'duration': 12.03}, {'end': 1632.006, 'text': "I can't I can't do it anymore.", 'start': 1630.745, 'duration': 1.261}, {'end': 1632.826, 'text': "I'm mentally dying.", 'start': 1632.026, 'duration': 0.8}, {'end': 1634.688, 'text': "It's just unbelievable to me.", 'start': 1633.167, 'duration': 1.521}, {'end': 1639.228, 'text': 'Absolutely Unbelievable that my grandfather would say this to me.', 'start': 1635.268, 'duration': 3.96}, {'end': 1642.25, 'text': "This doesn't just..", 'start': 1639.268, 'duration': 2.982}, {'end': 1645.693, 'text': "It's like, if you're watching this video, bro, fuck you.", 'start': 1642.25, 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'highlights': ["The chapter highlights the refusal to pay $1,300 rent for the family member, emphasizing the financial support already provided and the decision to not continue being the 'cash cow' for the family.", 'It also emphasizes the unexpected response from the grandparents, who claim to be devout Christians, highlighting the family dynamics and the religious influence on the confrontation.', "Additionally, it reveals the family's expectation for the individual to always roll over and provide financial support for the father, despite the decision to not pay rent this month."]}, {'end': 1667.384, 'start': 1538.616, 'title': 'Family struggle and rejection', 'summary': 'Unveils a distressing family situation where the speaker is emotionally rejected by their grandfather for being unable to continue financially supporting their father, highlighting deceit and dysfunction within the family.', 'duration': 128.768, 'highlights': ["The speaker's distressing account of being emotionally rejected by their grandfather for being unable to continue financially supporting their father, despite the dysfunctional family dynamics and deceitful behavior of other members.", "Revealing the family's dysfunctional dynamics where the speaker's sister and parents have been involved in deceitful activities for financial gains, leading to emotional turmoil and the speaker's decision to cease supporting their father.", "The speaker's emotional response to the rejection, expressing shock and disbelief at their grandfather's harsh words, highlighting the contrast between his behavior and the expectations of a devout Christian, and ultimately conveying the deep emotional impact of the situation."]}], 'duration': 239.972, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc1427412.jpg', 'highlights': ["The chapter highlights the refusal to pay $1,300 rent for the family member, emphasizing the financial support already provided and the decision to not continue being the 'cash cow' for the family.", "The speaker's distressing account of being emotionally rejected by their grandfather for being unable to continue financially supporting their father, despite the dysfunctional family dynamics and deceitful behavior of other members.", 'It also emphasizes the unexpected response from the grandparents, who claim to be devout Christians, highlighting the family dynamics and the religious influence on the confrontation.', "Revealing the family's dysfunctional dynamics where the speaker's sister and parents have been involved in deceitful activities for financial gains, leading to emotional turmoil and the speaker's decision to cease supporting their father."]}, {'end': 1869.84, 'segs': [{'end': 1722.865, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 1668.166, 'weight': 0, 'content': [{'end': 1674.302, 'text': "And then his wife, my dad's mom, messages me, right? She's obviously freaking out.", 'start': 1668.166, 'duration': 6.136}, {'end': 1679.433, 'text': 'And she says, Josh, you could have given a warning before the end of the month.', 'start': 1675.652, 'duration': 3.781}, {'end': 1681.354, 'text': 'Your dad is trying to get back in a full-time job.', 'start': 1679.453, 'duration': 1.901}, {'end': 1682.854, 'text': 'You know very well he cannot pay the rent.', 'start': 1681.374, 'duration': 1.48}, {'end': 1688.135, 'text': "Yeah, but he's been trying to get back in a full-time job for seven months, you know, a year.", 'start': 1683.394, 'duration': 4.741}, {'end': 1691.316, 'text': "Whatever, you know, it doesn't..", 'start': 1689.416, 'duration': 1.9}, {'end': 1694.737, 'text': 'She goes on to say, we are 76 and 77.', 'start': 1691.316, 'duration': 3.421}, {'end': 1697.238, 'text': 'You give us a few days to stretch our fixed income.', 'start': 1694.737, 'duration': 2.501}, {'end': 1699.778, 'text': 'You have so much to learn about life and the things that matter.', 'start': 1697.298, 'duration': 2.48}, {'end': 1701.919, 'text': "And she started saying money isn't everything, basically.", 'start': 1699.818, 'duration': 2.101}, {'end': 1703.259, 'text': 'I gave them a notice.', 'start': 1702.279, 'duration': 0.98}, {'end': 1706.46, 'text': "I told them at the beginning of the month, I'm not going to support them anymore, and they just ignored me.", 'start': 1703.419, 'duration': 3.041}, {'end': 1709.441, 'text': "They didn't answer because they didn't want to deal with me then, and they don't want to deal with me now.", 'start': 1706.48, 'duration': 2.961}, {'end': 1719.264, 'text': "And she says, nothing like a sudden notice that we need to pay $1,100 plus bill in a few days makes for a good night's rest trying to guilt trip me.", 'start': 1710.381, 'duration': 8.883}, {'end': 1721.524, 'text': "And I'm not saying you have to pay it.", 'start': 1719.864, 'duration': 1.66}, {'end': 1722.865, 'text': 'I never said that, Grandma.', 'start': 1721.604, 'duration': 1.261}], 'summary': "Grandma expresses concern over dad's job search and financial struggles, while grandson feels guilt-tripped over abrupt rent notice.", 'duration': 54.699, 'max_score': 1668.166, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc1668166.jpg'}, {'end': 1764.587, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 1740.02, 'weight': 4, 'content': [{'end': 1746.563, 'text': "And then 20 minutes go by and she's like, Joshua, would you reconsider and pay the rent? Your dad needs a chance to get paychecks coming in.", 'start': 1740.02, 'duration': 6.543}, {'end': 1750.845, 'text': 'Why knock him down again? Again? I never knocked him down at all.', 'start': 1746.623, 'duration': 4.222}, {'end': 1753.486, 'text': 'I never knocked him down in the beginning.', 'start': 1751.065, 'duration': 2.421}, {'end': 1759.189, 'text': "I've only helped pick him back up time and time again after being financially screwed.", 'start': 1753.886, 'duration': 5.303}, {'end': 1761.39, 'text': 'This is gaslighting, as you all know.', 'start': 1759.589, 'duration': 1.801}, {'end': 1764.587, 'text': 'A lot of people in my life somehow like to do this to me.', 'start': 1762.145, 'duration': 2.442}], 'summary': 'The speaker feels they are being gaslighted for financially helping their dad.', 'duration': 24.567, 'max_score': 1740.02, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc1740020.jpg'}, {'end': 1826.936, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 1793.346, 'weight': 5, 'content': [{'end': 1794.807, 'text': "you know he's not saved, or whatever.", 'start': 1793.346, 'duration': 1.461}, {'end': 1801.05, 'text': "Like, when I put my foot down and say that I'm done, I'm not doing it anymore, suddenly I've burnt my bridge.", 'start': 1795.067, 'duration': 5.983}, {'end': 1804.752, 'text': "Only then have I burnt my bridge and I've done nothing but support these people.", 'start': 1801.27, 'duration': 3.482}, {'end': 1808.574, 'text': "I texted my mom, said, hey, I'm not paying dad's rent.", 'start': 1805.072, 'duration': 3.502}, {'end': 1810.115, 'text': "If you don't want him to be homeless, you should probably do something.", 'start': 1808.594, 'duration': 1.521}, {'end': 1811.916, 'text': "And now she hasn't responded to me for months.", 'start': 1810.135, 'duration': 1.781}, {'end': 1814.817, 'text': "Mom, if you're watching this, a giant fuck you to you as well.", 'start': 1811.976, 'duration': 2.841}, {'end': 1816.518, 'text': "You're a piece of shit too.", 'start': 1815.698, 'duration': 0.82}, {'end': 1819.353, 'text': "Um, I'll probably never see you again.", 'start': 1817.539, 'duration': 1.814}, {'end': 1820.434, 'text': 'Background about my mom.', 'start': 1819.653, 'duration': 0.781}, {'end': 1826.936, 'text': 'I bought her a one-way ticket to go see her dying father and she went to Georgia to go be his caretaker.', 'start': 1820.814, 'duration': 6.122}], 'summary': 'Expressing frustration and cutting off support for unappreciative family members.', 'duration': 33.59, 'max_score': 1793.346, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc1793346.jpg'}], 'start': 1668.166, 'title': 'Family struggles', 'summary': 'Delves into strained family dynamics as the speaker faces financial strain and disputes, leading to a sense of betrayal and strained relationships, despite guilt over stopping financial support.', 'chapters': [{'end': 1722.865, 'start': 1668.166, 'title': 'Financial strain and family dynamics', 'summary': "Highlights a strained family dynamic as the speaker's grandparents express distress over financial support, with the speaker feeling guilty but firm in his decision to stop supporting them, despite their age and financial constraints.", 'duration': 54.699, 'highlights': ["The speaker's grandparents, aged 76 and 77, are distressed over the sudden notice to pay $1,100 plus bill in a few days due to the speaker's decision to stop financial support.", "The speaker feels guilty as his grandmother tries to guilt trip him, emphasizing that money isn't everything and expressing the need for a few days to stretch their fixed income.", 'The speaker had given a notice at the beginning of the month about discontinuing financial support to his grandparents, who ignored it, leading to the current distressing situation for them.', "The speaker's dad has been trying to get back into a full-time job for seven months or even a year, highlighting the prolonged financial strain faced by the family."]}, {'end': 1869.84, 'start': 1723.325, 'title': 'Family struggles and financial dispute', 'summary': "Discusses the speaker's refusal to financially support family members, citing instances of financial irresponsibility and lack of reciprocation from the family, leading to strained relationships and a sense of betrayal.", 'duration': 146.515, 'highlights': ['The speaker refuses to pay rent for their dad due to repeated financial support and lack of reciprocation, leading to strained family relationships.', "The speaker expresses frustration towards their mother's lack of responsibility and financial dependency, leading to strained mother-child relationship.", 'The speaker feels betrayed by family members who expect financial support without reciprocating, leading to strained family dynamics.', "The speaker emphasizes their decision to stop enabling family members' irresponsible behavior, highlighting the strain it has placed on their relationships."]}], 'duration': 201.674, 'thumbnail': 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"The speaker emphasizes their decision to stop enabling family members' irresponsible behavior, highlighting the strain it has placed on their relationships.", 'The speaker feels betrayed by family members who expect financial support without reciprocating, leading to strained family dynamics.', "The speaker expresses frustration towards their mother's lack of responsibility and financial dependency, leading to strained mother-child relationship."]}, {'end': 2439.748, 'segs': [{'end': 1946.264, 'src': 'heatmap', 'start': 1918.544, 'weight': 0.714, 'content': [{'end': 1922.206, 'text': "And when I said it, like, I didn't mean like, that's like the ultimatum.", 'start': 1918.544, 'duration': 3.662}, {'end': 1924.607, 'text': 'I just meant like, if you want, you can do something.', 'start': 1922.346, 'duration': 2.261}, {'end': 1927.368, 'text': "She said, what can I do? And I said, I'm not sure.", 'start': 1925.786, 'duration': 1.582}, {'end': 1928.469, 'text': "You don't have to do anything.", 'start': 1927.388, 'duration': 1.081}, {'end': 1930.23, 'text': "It's up to you, but I can't do anything.", 'start': 1928.649, 'duration': 1.581}, {'end': 1935.795, 'text': 'And then she flips the script on me again and says, Josh, you talked him to moving out there.', 'start': 1931.211, 'duration': 4.584}, {'end': 1937.476, 'text': 'And I said, oh, okay.', 'start': 1936.716, 'duration': 0.76}, {'end': 1941.62, 'text': "It's my fault that I saved my family from being homeless.", 'start': 1937.696, 'duration': 3.924}, {'end': 1943.521, 'text': 'I have to continue to pay his rent.', 'start': 1942, 'duration': 1.521}, {'end': 1944.342, 'text': 'I got it.', 'start': 1943.942, 'duration': 0.4}, {'end': 1946.264, 'text': 'Well, my mom can help, smiley face.', 'start': 1944.803, 'duration': 1.461}], 'summary': "Josh feels burdened by financial responsibility for family member's rent.", 'duration': 27.72, 'max_score': 1918.544, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc1918544.jpg'}, {'end': 2283.574, 'src': 'embed', 'start': 2243.818, 'weight': 0, 'content': [{'end': 2245.378, 'text': 'In summary, fuck all you guys.', 'start': 2243.818, 'duration': 1.56}, {'end': 2249.219, 'text': "And if this is what family means, you guys can have it because I'm out.", 'start': 2245.638, 'duration': 3.581}, {'end': 2257.262, 'text': 'The hardest part is realizing that you can only do so much and you go from helping them to enabling them.', 'start': 2249.78, 'duration': 7.482}, {'end': 2261.678, 'text': 'And the hardest part, on top of that, is accepting that it might never change.', 'start': 2258.456, 'duration': 3.222}, {'end': 2272.346, 'text': "And after that, the hardest part is accepting that I've done everything I can, and that whatever happens after that is not on me.", 'start': 2263.54, 'duration': 8.806}, {'end': 2278.45, 'text': "I'm 29 years old, I'm gonna be 30 in July, and I've given my family over $40,000 the past year.", 'start': 2272.726, 'duration': 5.724}, {'end': 2283.574, 'text': 'For free! For nothing! At what point do I say, hey, this is my life, I have to live for me.', 'start': 2279.051, 'duration': 4.523}], 'summary': 'Struggling with family dependence, feeling overwhelmed and unappreciated despite contributing over $40,000 in the past year.', 'duration': 39.756, 'max_score': 2243.818, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc2243818.jpg'}, {'end': 2418.258, 'src': 'heatmap', 'start': 2386.647, 'weight': 1, 'content': [{'end': 2387.728, 'text': "I don't talk to any of you guys again.", 'start': 2386.647, 'duration': 1.081}, {'end': 2393.19, 'text': "I keep processing that over and over and what it's like to just be an orphan now.", 'start': 2389.028, 'duration': 4.162}, {'end': 2395.291, 'text': 'I guess my grandma predicted it.', 'start': 2394.211, 'duration': 1.08}, {'end': 2399.673, 'text': "She said, don't worry, Josh, one day you'll be all alone with no friends or family.", 'start': 2395.591, 'duration': 4.082}, {'end': 2403.615, 'text': 'Same grandma that told me I need to ask for forgiveness.', 'start': 2401.614, 'duration': 2.001}, {'end': 2414.957, 'text': 'Same grandma that sent me two books about how I need to read what happens in heaven so that I can meet my grandfather that passed away.', 'start': 2405.034, 'duration': 9.923}, {'end': 2418.258, 'text': "Because if I don't read these, then I won't see him again.", 'start': 2414.997, 'duration': 3.261}], 'summary': 'Josh feels isolated, receiving a prophecy from his grandmother about being alone, and advice on seeking forgiveness and reading about heaven.', 'duration': 31.611, 'max_score': 2386.647, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc2386647.jpg'}], 'start': 1870.14, 'title': 'Struggles with family support', 'summary': 'Depicts the struggles of a person supporting their family financially, giving over $40,000 in the past year, facing resistance and manipulation, and ultimately deciding to cut off toxic family relationships.', 'chapters': [{'end': 2439.748, 'start': 1870.14, 'title': 'Struggles with family support', 'summary': 'Depicts the struggles of a person trying to support their family financially, having given over $40,000 in the past year, facing resistance and manipulation, and ultimately deciding to cut off toxic family relationships.', 'duration': 569.608, 'highlights': ['The individual has given over $40,000 in the past year to support their family. The individual has given a substantial amount of money, over $40,000, to support their family in the past year, indicating a significant financial burden.', 'Facing manipulation and resistance from family members, leading to the decision to cut off toxic family relationships. The individual faces emotional manipulation and resistance from family members, ultimately deciding to cut off toxic family relationships, indicating a significant emotional toll and a breaking point in the relationship.', 'The individual expresses the struggle of moving from helping to enabling family members. The individual grapples with the difficult transition from providing help to family members to recognizing that continuing to do so may be enabling, reflecting a complex emotional and ethical struggle.']}], 'duration': 569.608, 'thumbnail': 'https://coursnap.oss-ap-southeast-1.aliyuncs.com/video-capture/4lV1JXL9gYc/pics/4lV1JXL9gYc1870140.jpg', 'highlights': ['The individual has given over $40,000 in the past year to support their family, indicating a significant financial burden.', 'Facing manipulation and resistance from family members, leading to the decision to cut off toxic family relationships, indicating a significant emotional toll and a breaking point in the relationship.', 'The individual grapples with the difficult transition from providing help to family members to recognizing that continuing to do so may be enabling, reflecting a complex emotional and ethical struggle.']}], 'highlights': ['The speaker has given over $40,000 in the past year to support their family, indicating a significant financial burden.', "The speaker has been financially supporting their parents for five to six years, giving them all their savings to move to Utah and working nonstop to pay for their own and their parents' expenses.", 'The speaker financially supports their family, paying for various expenses including car, insurance, phone bill, and rent, totaling $1,300 every month, with no return.', "The speaker decided to stop paying their dad's rent, leading to a strained relationship with their family and being blamed for the family's problems.", "The speaker emphasizes their decision to stop enabling family members' irresponsible behavior, highlighting the strain it has placed on their relationships.", 'The individual grapples with the difficult transition from providing help to family members to recognizing that continuing to do so may be enabling, reflecting a complex emotional and ethical struggle.', "The speaker expresses frustration towards their mother's lack of responsibility and financial dependency, leading to strained mother-child relationship.", 'The speaker feels betrayed by family members who expect financial support without reciprocating, leading to strained family dynamics.', 'The speaker refuses to pay rent for their dad due to repeated financial support and lack of reciprocation, leading to strained family relationships.', 'The speaker expresses frustration in being ghosted by her father for five days, despite her efforts to help him with health issues and bills.']}